More often than usual, men are becoming confused on how they should treat a woman.
Some of us are giving a bad reputation as to what a healthy intimate relationship should be like. And believe me it goes far beyond physical intimacy.
Most men seem to share the same mentality in what they consider intimate respect and what’s not a big deal.
Perhaps comfort zones were ambiguous. Perhaps the other girl didn’t set boundaries. Perhaps she didn’t even care.
The truth is, we’ll never know and we don’t want to. So if we love you, prepare the training wheels.
For those who are ready to settle, word of advice men, get to know her respective boundaries before you start sharing your little black book. And women, don’t change your standards and how you want to be respected.
She freely talked about her intimate past. Truth is women don’t.
They don’t want to hear about your past endeavors. Not one peep. If they care about you, it hurts. If this is confusing, let’s put it into perspective.
If a woman wants to settle, dating to her is the possibility of building a future. That future doesn’t consist of her past.
There really is no vital point in talking about it. So they’ll hold their private life firmly and respect their intimate past by leaving it behind.
She introduced you to her old f-buddy. Truth is women don’t.
To some men, it may seem like another way to connect. What most don’t realize is that it never just stayed as friends, and intimacy involved means they saw your chick before you did.
Women don’t want their men to feel inferior and respect their relationship and the personal meaning it holds.
They also don’t want to be introduced to your f-buddies. A girl you love and a girl you “did”, should never be in the same room. Again no real vital point for it.
She was fine with you talking to your ex; she was talking to hers too. Truth is women aren’t.
As a wise friend once told me, there comes a point in your life when you have to realize what a true friendship is and what’s considered baggage.
A past relationship should stay in the past. For a woman, if there’s nothing bonding her to her ex, then there’s no reason important enough to bring them up.
They also know everyone goes their separate ways, so why not now! If your building a relationship for the long-haul then the most important friendship you have is quite obvious. Tend to that.
She didn’t mind hearing about your intimate past. Truth is women do.
A woman won’t care what you’ve learned and how you’ve learned it. It’s about “Do you want to do this?” Never start a question with “Have you ever…?” It’s a window of opportunity for too much information to escape.
The relationship is about you both, and that’s how it should be followed through. She wants to feel she’s the only one…even though she knows she’s not. If she loves you, she holds this dearly.
She cared about what you spoiled her with. Truth is women don’t.
It’s about the little things. She doesn’t care about fancy places, how much you make, or what you’ll provide for her lifestyle. It’s the good-morning breakfast, the “here’s an aspirin for your headache” or it’s a quick glance at her and she knows what you’re thinking.
Yes…the mushy stuff. This is what turns out to be quite significant. It’s what makes you feel like a kid while your streaming along with your person in this adult life.
She didn’t mind seeing, let alone using, old “stuff” from your previous endeavors. Truth is women do!
Woman don’t want to spark up a conversation starting with “Whose is this?” and the story behind it. They will more than likely never have keep-sakes because moving on…means moving on. They don’t want to be asked about it.
Most importantly, never ask her to use anything intimate you’ve used on someone else. It’s disrespectful and offensive. If you love her, spend a couple and throw the old s*** out.
