After dating my fair share of guys, and having my fair share of unsuccessful relationships, I have learned what I do and do not want in my future boyfriend.
You need to know how to hold a conversation.
Communicating my thoughts and feelings comes very easily to me and most women, but I've dated men who tend to fall short of this.
Believe it or not, I'm not a mind reader. I need you to be able to tell me how you feel and especially when you are grumpy.
Know there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.
You can't just shut down and hate life I'm not going to drag you to the light at the end of the tunnel. You need to find it yourself.
I have no problem supporting my S.O. when life gets rough, but I need someone who can face his challenges head on and carry some of his own weight.
Happiness is key.
We're just trying to have fun right?
A sense of self.
I mean a strong understand of respect and dignity. I will love and support you, but I need you to know yourself too.
You need to make me laugh multiple times a day.
Seriously, just let loose and laugh. Don't have your panties in a bunch. When you are confident in your own skin, you can laugh at yourself.
See life as an exciting opportunity.
I hate being stuck in a rut and dull routine. It makes me anxious. I need to spice things up, go on new adventures, try new things, and just explore life for all its worth! I would love dating a guy who would be there right next to me experience all these new things together.
Someone who sees life is an exciting opportunity, is exciting! Not someone who lets life slip away, not curious to explore and just sitting back. And especially not someone who sees life as a dark deranged place where we all die anyway so they don't bother living it.
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Insecurity ruins relationships.
When you are confident and comfortable in your own skin, you make room for a healthy and mature relationship. And we all know confidence is super sexy.
Also must loves sex as much as I do.
If you suck in bed and can't keep up with having sex multiple times a day in multiple places, this will not work out. We will both resent each other.
Also faithful and loyal to me, and only me.
Seriously I am wayyy over dating guys with a wandering eye and who micro-cheat behind my back.
The word future means something to you.
I'm all about partying and having a great time. But if he is stuck in his college days, immature without a plan for the future, you guys aren't going anywhere either. Said plan will change along the way, but he needs to have the drive and dedication to attain his goals. I want to make sure I am dating a man, not a boy.
And you won't give up on me when the going gets tough.
Life is not perfect, we are not perfect, relationships are not perfect. But someone who never stops trying, that is pretty damn near perfect.
When two people never give up on each other even when times are bad, that defines their true character and the strength of their love. Even if someone has all above characteristics, if they leave at first bump in the road, none of it even matters.
