We don’t always say the truth. Sometimes we keep things to ourselves because it isn’t relevant. But when it comes to a relationship, there’s being courteous and just “point-blank” lying.
So if you have to lie to me, please don’t stay with me.
When I tell you that I need reassurance, it’s not about reassuring me with things I can visually see. But also doing what you can on your part without the gratitude.
Because I won’t follow you. I’m not a watch-dog. I won’t always know.
You are carrying something quite heavy and priceless, my heart, as I carry yours.
I shouldn’t have to worry about you following worldly views or your moral compass. I shouldn’t have to worry about what we can and cannot talk about. Just how.
So if you find yourself having to lie to me, for your own peace of my mind, don’t force us.
I don’t need someone like that. I need someone who knows what it takes now after past failed attempts.
Someone who seeks the same reassurance I’m looking for. Someone who values their time and not wanting to waste it anymore.
Someone who’s willing to put in the same amount of efforts as I am.
So if you find yourself having to cover-up why you did something, don’t prolong this. It’s just setting us up for failure.
You’re doing something wrong and I’m obviously not for you. I can’t make you happy.
You are now creating a façade of what I need of you as a surface appearance.
I don’t need something falsified and you don’t either. Don’t keep me as a security blanket. You’ll eventually look elsewhere for the whole bed set.
It may come natural to me to provide loyalty, assurance, and all levels of affection. But if it’s becoming difficult for you, please don’t make this something it’s not.
Please don’t stay with me.