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If Your Heart's Been Crushed Again, Know That Healing Takes Time

At first, it’s going to feel like the end of the world. Finally feeling strong enough to be vulnerable again only to have your heart ripped from your chest hurts more than words can say. 

It'll take all the strength you have to just keep breathing. Your lungs will feel so tight from the tears that never seem to stop pouring down your face. 

You might start shaking uncontrollably, wondering when or if the pain will ever end. It’ll be hard to believe that you'll get over him, just know you will. 

But the sad truth is, it's going to take a long time before you can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

You’ll think about him all day and reminisce about your best times together. You’ll see him in your dreams only to wake up and remember the harsh reality. 

Some nights you’re going to have a little too much to drink and send a risky text spilling your heart out. You'll be crushed when it goes unanswered. 

If you could have one wish, it'd be for just one more chance to talk to him face-to-face and make things right. You’ll want nothing more than to hear his voice, but your call will go straight to voicemail for the 100th time. 

You’ll creep his Facebook throughout the day and reach out to his family and friends, hoping they'll still talk you even though he won’t.

More than anything, you’re going to want someone else to fill the void he left in your heart, one that you just can’t seem to fill yourself. 

You’ll be afraid of being alone, yet scared to love again. It'll make you question whether you’re even deserving of love. You’re going to lose yourself completely before you find yourself again. 

No one can tell you when or how you’ll finally get over it. You’re going to heal on your own terms, at your own pace; one day you’ll just start to feel like yourself again. 

You'll realize that the pain you're struggling with has made you a better, wiser person. 

Because pain can teach you some of the most important lessons in life: the importance of self-love, not settling, knowing what you truly deserve, and seeing the red flags before you get in too deep. 

It’ll teach you independence and true strength. 

When the storm is finally over, you’ll wonder how you even survived. But you’ll be thankful for the painful experience that somehow brought you to pure happiness – happiness that you created for yourself. 

You'll thank him for letting you go because a guy like that never deserved the kind of deep, unfiltered love you have to offer. 

And one day you’ll be certain of the kind of love you truly need and you'll find the strength to try again.