Maybe you met him a couple years ago, maybe you met him last season. Either way, you have history with him. You get nostalgic over your old memories and the thrill of the amazing fling you guys had. This history seems to be what keeps you two going.
At first, it seemed like a good thing, but now it seems like all you have. You're not making any new memories, you're not excited to see each other, and things don't feel hot and heavy anymore.
Maybe he calls you when things aren’t going so well, maybe he calls you when things are going well, who knows. All you know for sure is you two have been in each other's lives for a while.
History isn’t everything in a relationship. When you are with someone you need to feel like you are loved and wanted. No history in the world can make someone feel those things.
He calls you and maybe he tells you how much he cares or maybe he tells you how much he loves you. Maybe he is just full of shit. Maybe he means it. Who knows.
Sometimes when you guys talk, he might tell you what he is up to, he might not say much, or he might tell you about another girl that is closer to him. He might just be an asshole. He probably is an asshole.
Maybe he tells you these things because he is scared of a real commitment. Maybe he isn’t ready for something real. Maybe he just isn’t even into you, maybe you are just crazy. Probably just crazy, probably just over thinking. Right?
At the end of the day all you know for sure is that he isn’t there when he says he will be, he doesn’t call you when you need him the most, and he doesn't show up when you need him to.
You don’t physically need him to be where you are at that moment, but you need him to be in that moment with you. You need him to care the way you have for so long about him, but he doesn’t.
When things get really hard, you start to realize how much history doesn’t mean.
It doesn’t mean that he will be there, it doesn’t mean that he will always know what is going on. It definitely doesn’t mean that he will be understanding, or around.
History just means at one point you two had something, maybe it wasn’t a real relationship, but it was something. Some sort of feelings, emotions, something. It was real.
All you know is right now, he isn’t there, and there is only your past together.
Is that really enough for you? Is that the kind of feeling you deserve?
You deserve a man who will be there, who will love you, who will always be by your side, maybe not literally but definitely emotionally.
History isn’t what you need to keep a relationship going, it's what you read about.