There comes a day where you wake up after being a shit show the night before and decide it’s time to leave the party scene for good.
You lie in bed and look at the stranger next to you with that nagging guilt jolting through you.
The throbbing in your head reminds you how much you’ve been abusing your body. Your nightstand filled with empty food wrappers and the shame of all of your not so great choices consume you.
You tell yourself "This time, I mean it. I'm done doing this kind of stuff."
You decide that this isn’t the life you want anymore. That you can and will do better than this life you've been living. But walking away from the toxic people, alcohol and even drugs for some is no easy feat.
It’s literally starting over in every area of your life all while dealing with all the shady decisions you made while in the midst of your drunken stupor. You ask yourself, “Now what?”
One of the hardest realizations at this point is your friends. You’ve been through so much with these people and shared so many laughs and memories.
Soon after you decide to sober up, those “best friends” of yours are nowhere to be found.
Why is that? Because most of them weren’t your real friends to begin with, they were your party friends. If they don’t stand by you through sobriety and happily take part in your sober hobbies with you, it’s time to make new friends who will.
Another big obstacle as you change your life for the better is getting to know the sober you and forgiving the drunk you, too. You might have made some choices or said some things in the past while intoxicated that make your stomach turn now.
Remember that forgiving yourself is an important step to moving forward.
Cut yourself some slack and make amends with the people you hurt whenever you can.
Make new memories too. Because living in the past and beating yourself up forever will never allow you to really be happy and become the person you want to be.
As you get to know your sober self, you might find that being social while sober is a lot harder than you realized. The drunk you is a social butterfly, why does it feel so awkward to interact with people now? Give it time, this will pass as you adjust to your new lifestyle.
Find out what the new you really loves.
Maybe it’s a hobby, a class or a career that you never took the time to realize you had an interest in. It’s amazing how much stronger and open your mind is when your body is healthy and thinking clearly.
Sometimes your mind is ready to change but the addictions you acquired don’t seem to be ready to let go at the same time.
Be strong and remember why you are doing this.
Those addictions — whether it be alcohol, drugs, sex or anything else — don’t define you and they sure as hell don’t get to control you anymore. Don’t be afraid to seek help if you need it, it could literally save your life.
Learn to love your own company, because your relationship with yourself is the most important.
You will lose a lot of friends and maybe even family as you make this change but that’s okay. When you learn to love and take care of yourself, the right people will come into your life.
Have faith in yourself, because it will get you through this.
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