There's a lot of stereotypes about Single Moms out there. Let me set you straight on a few things that don't apply to all of us.
1. I'm not a whore.
My children came from loving relationships. They're not just tax deductions or a monthly child support payday. Just because I have kids doesn't mean I sleep around. It also doesn't mean you don't have to put in the effort of actually dating me.
2. Yes, I have to go to work, work, work, work, work…
Sure, there is child support paid, but it is an amount that is now where near what anyone could live off of. I have a job. I have insurance. I take care of myself and my kid, and if that support stopped tomorrow, we would get along just fine.
3. I'm not a crazy bitch.
I no longer have feelings for my ex, but they'll be involved in my life until my kid is at least 18. I'm not out to "get back at them" or "get them back". We have a kid together, but the feelings of love and bitterness are gone. That ship sailed a long time ago. We didn't work and that's okay, it doesn't mean there has to be hate.
4. I'm not looking for a Replacement Dad.
The dad role has been filled. I'm not taking applications. If you want to be a male role model and teach my kids how a woman should be treated, great! If you think I'm going to need you to do every little thing… signing permission slips, going to the Daddy Daughter Dance… all of that, nope.
Think again. There's already someone in that spot. You'll find your niche in our lives, but it's not going to be there.
5. I still know how to have FUN!
I'm not going to blow off my responsibilities as a mother ever, but every now and then, I need some adult time. The tiny humans have first priority in my life, that won't ever change. But there will be times that I need a break. Getting a babysitter to go out doesn't make me a bad mom. It's called life balance.
6. I haven't failed at life.
Dude. I have a college degree. I have a full time job with benefits. I take care of two tiny humans and myself without the assistance of another adult in my home. I like my life the way it is. I recognized a relationship that wasn't working or bringing joy to my life. I ended it. It doesn't mean I failed. If nothing else, I thrived. I'm awesome. Deal with it.
Before you decide to assume really ridiculous and disrespectful things about be based on my current family situation, maybe try getting to know me first. I would be happy to pleasantly surprise you!