Negative Nancy, Debbie Downer, and Pessimistic Patty are unfortunately at the bar. Their bad mojo’s are just too overpowering for this happy place.
A random man screams out to the bartender: “Can someone send over a couple shots of self-esteem to these fun suckers in order to boost their slumped ego?”
Debbie ruins the entire atmosphere, sucking the life out of all good things. She expresses her opinion even when people don’t care to hear it. Debbie thrives on bringing everyone around her down. I think Debbie has some insecurity issues.
Patty finds ways to discourage your bright ideas, and proceeds to tell everyone you’re a failure at life. There is no hope for Patty, since she will always remind you that everything goes downhill. Clearly her glass is half empty and she needs another drink. Waiter!
Lastly, Nancy just doesn’t seem to have any words of encouragement in her vocab, instead she points out all your flaws and jumps to conclusions. Even if you think you did something right, Nancy will just say it is wrong. Nancy doesn’t want to be at the bar. She just wants to complain the whole time instead. WAA WAAA WAA
People who spout out negative opinions without valid basis are trying to basically tell everyone "hey look at me look at me!!"
And although these negative people should get the least of our time and energy, we often give them the most attention. I don’t understand how wallowing in other peoples misery makes people feel more confident?
Strategies to deal with downers:
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Resist the urge to assume that they were born an a**hole
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Maintain positivity since they can’t seem to do it themselves
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Temper your emotional responses to their snide remarks
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Don’t take it personally since they are the insecure ones
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Act instead of reacting. Help them learn to be more optimistic
Now is the time to decide that you’re not going to allow negative people to determine how you think, feel, and behave. Take back your power and focus your time and energy on becoming your best self. Careful though, negativity is contagious and spreads like wildfire.
~Pay close attention to people who don’t clap when you win~
