IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE READY!
You don’t have to be ready to let go.
You don’t have to be ready to say enough is enough.
You don’t have to be ready to stop checking his friends Facebook pages, rereading texts and obsessing over why it all ended.
It’s okay to not want to give into your circle of friend’s advice yet saying you should “just stop.” It’s ok to still obsess over everything that was said, done, and felt. It’s okay to heal the way YOU want to heal!
STOP LETTING YOUR FRIENDS DECIDE HOW YOU SHOULD FEEL!
We have all been there, your friends try and tell you that you deserve better, his new GF is ugly, he didn’t deserve you, he was immature, and you were too strong for him. And you know what, maybe that is ALL true but, it doesn’t mean you have to skip the healing process. Stop throwing on that fake smile and going on dates just because you think it’s what you are supposed to be doing. Just STOP, and heal.
HEAL YOUR WAY
Take a deep breath and read this carefully:
IT IS OKAY TO TAKE YOUR TIME AND GET OVER IT IN YOUR OWN TIME!!!
Read those texts, sit in your house and cry, go out and get drunk (just be safe), stalk Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat like a pro, analyze every little detail that you think you need to. Do it, do it as long as you think it’s needed. Do it for days, months, or years… whatever makes YOU feel like you are dealing with it best.
Don’t ever apologize to your friends or ANYONE for wanting to take your time to feel better before you move on. Moving on before you are ready could be catastrophic to future relationships and your mental health.
Maybe the time you take to analyze will help you see that the relationship was fine, you two just were not meant to be together.
Maybe this time will show you flaws in yourself that will help you in later relationships.
And just MAYBE this time will show you the flaws in HIM that show you exactly why your friends just want you to get over him already.
WHEN YOU’RE READY, GO ROCK THE DATING LIFE AGAIN
When you are finally feeling more like yourself and you’ve super-glued all the pieces back together, get out there and date without reservation! Don’t hold the lasts guys issues against the new guy. Don’t hold back just because it didn’t work before. Don’t question yourself. GO FOR IT! And one day, you will find the person who brings a whole lot of extra joy into your life.
