Here you are, in your late 20's, thinking you need to have your entire life together yesterday. You don't know which way is up, you barely have enough money to afford the big pack of ramen noodles, and everyone you know is married and having children on purpose!
Let's just sum it up and say you feel like you're at rock bottom and your life sucks! Newsflash: YOU'RE GONNA BE OKAY!
Your life has just begun, my darling. You're under no obligation to live your life the same way everyone else is. You don't have to be married or settled down or even in a relationship just because everyone from your graduating class is committed to someone.
These are the years that you deserve to be selfish! Get a hobby, fail miserably at it, and then get another one. Get a couple shitty jobs you absolutely hate, before you find that one you were made for. Drink that whole bottle of wine, 'cause it's the third Thursday of May, and 'cause you can!
I do not understand why everyone's end game these days has to be marriage and babies! And I hate to admit that it was almost my end game too. Had my life not taken the turn that it did, I can regretfully say I'd have been married today and probably trying to have my first child.
You get sucked in to these pretty painted pictures of what your life should look like based on what your ex best friend from high school is doing now.
We are intrigued by every detail of people's lives on Facebook, silently judging and hating ourselves because our lives don't seem nearly as great. But that's the thing, theirs aren't either!
One of my favorite radio DJs, Bobby Bones, always says that the things you see people post on Facebook are always the "Best Of" their lives. You're not seeing all the bad days, struggles with money, the fights they're having with their significant other. You're only seeing the really good things they're posting to brag.
Live your own life by your own rules on your own time line. Stop thinking your goals have to mimic the lives of everyone around you. Do what makes you happy.
Stop reading your newsfeed like it's just a list of everyone's achievements and you have nothing of your own to add. Remember you don't have to have it all figured out right now. You have decades of time left to get your shit straight. And if you manage to settle down with the person of your dreams and start a family of your own, good for you. If you don't, well that life just wasn't for you, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that and I'm sure you know someone with babies that you can love on and spoil and send back home to their parents.
Your purpose in this life is not defined by your achievements, rather the memories you make and the moments in your life that you can look back at and know you truly lived.