I. LOVE. YOU.
Why is that so terrifying to say?
It can take months to build up the courage to say these three simple words for the first time.
And for a woman, the wait is even longer.
There is such a stigma around it that we start to panic about even the thought of saying it…FIRST.
We’ve been told for so long that we should never say it before he does; that we will undoubtedly scare him away if we show too much emotion.
So, we start acting weird instead. We start to monitor every word we say around him because we’re so afraid we’ll accidentally just blurt it out mid sentence.
And then, if by some miracle we do finally build up the courage to initiate the feeling, there are hundreds of rules we then have to follow on how to go about it:
Don’t say it before x many months.
Don’t say it before, during, or after sex.
Don’t say it in a fight.
Don’t say it until he’s relaxed.
Don’t say it until you’re sure he’ll say it back.
The pressure and “advice” is literally endless. If we try to follow it all and wait for that perfect millisecond where its acceptable, we’ll NEVER be able to say it.
So, what are we supposed to do? Hold our breath until he says it first? Wait until we literally burst from holding back for so long?
Ladies, I say we forget the rules and GO FOR IT.
What’s the worst that can happen?
He may even surprise us.