A couple years ago, I met someone in my class who I felt an instant connection to.
A few days went by and he finally started talking to me in class. I swear, the moment I met him, I knew there was something special about him. And the amazing part was that the feeling was mutual.
We flirted everyday for a few months until one day when we both said how we felt. From that moment on, things got weird. He was hot and cold, and I wasn’t sure how he felt. But here’s the thing. It was still exciting for me.
I would be ecstatic when he was into me, and when he avoided me, I chased after him.
We were the classic will they or won’t they, but somehow I still held onto the thought that we’d somehow find each other in the end.
I continued this stupid pattern until I finally had enough of this hot and cold sh*t. I realized way too late that I wasn’t chasing him; I was chasing the story we had once had.
I wanted things to work out so badly because we had the perfect story. But a part of me cut out all the bad things he had done to me. He ignored my texts. He avoided me, and made me feel like sh*t.
I kept reminding myself about all the amazing things he had once said to me. But at the end of the day, I can’t remember every amazing word he said to me, but I will remember how I felt. That being said, I’ll also remember how sh*tty he made me feel and that completely outweighs all the good things he’s ever done for me.
It was a huge learning lesson for me. I think we get caught up in having the perfect love story that we force it to happen.
We see them happen on our favorite television show and try to mirror those feelings and gestures. We want to have that story so badly so when it does happen, we hold on to it.
But if I learned anything, it’s that the past doesn’t dictate your future. Don’t let someone have that sort of power.
Be strong enough to let go of something that just isn’t going to happen. Be strong enough to let go of the story you pictured.
Maybe the story is just another chapter of your life. Be strong enough to start a new chapter and perhaps find the right ending to your story. I did, and I couldn't be happier in the place I'm in now.