“Let today be the day you finally release yourself from the imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live the abundantly beautiful present… today.”
-Steve Maraboli
We all tend to hold on to pain, grudges, and we continue to pray for karma to come back stronger than ever. We spend so much time dwelling and over analyzing every situation to the point where it is all we can focus on. We want to hate the person so much and we want to find a way to pay them back for everything they’ve done wrong.
We blame ourselves, thinking something must be wrong with us if someone can do us so wrong. But it’s not us at all. You are not to blame for how someone else decides to treat you. You can only control how you treat others and how you react to how other individuals treat you. No one is able to make you feel any type of way. If someone hurts you don’t allow it to alter your character. Don’t allow pain to control how you feel about yourself.
Many people fail to realize that they spend all this time in pain when the person who hurt them continues on with their life. They haven’t spent time over analyzing how they hurt you or how they are feeling about you being hurt; chances are they don’t even know you are hurt.
When someone hurts you don’t spend too much time grieving over it. Don’t spend too much time drowning in your own sorrow. You have a right to be sad, to be disappointed; just don’t sit in that same sad spot for too long. Don’t dig the hole deeper and deeper feeling sorry for yourself. You need to pick yourself up. You need to forgive those who did you wrong. You need to forgive them for you, not for them. They don’t deserve and most likely don’t need your forgiveness. You need the forgiveness. You need to grow from the pain and be the bigger person. Karma will get them, eventually.
Forgive but don’t ever forget. Don’t ever forget those who did you wrong, and don’t ever give someone who once did you wrong the opportunity to do it again. It won’t be easy, forgiving. But in the end it will all be worth it. The more time you spend sad, the more time you are giving up being happy.
Stop allowing someone else’s actions to get you down. Stop blaming yourself for how others treat you. Stop dwelling on all of the wrong doing and let go of those who did you wrong. If they don’t make you happy, they shouldn’t have a place in your life. Don’t allow an unhealthy person to continue pushing you down for their own gain. Let go of what you can’t change; let go of those who hurt you; let go of anyone, anything, and any situation that is stopping you from living a happy life.
