As a person that has endured shaming on both side of the spectrum and finally more accepting of myself, I can speak for either.
Body shaming is just cruel in its own way. Everybody gets body shamed and it is a single judgement based on what you see on the outward of the person without knowing them and what they are going through.
When one says that real women have curves and that real men have muscles, are indirectly body shaming everyone that does not have those characteristics? We actually come in all shapes and sizes and it doesn’t make us less real.
Sometimes it feels that to make one feel good is to tear down another person’s body and this goes both way; for example “Look at that skinny ass bitch” or “Damn, that girl is a fat ass bitch”. It seems obvious to me that this people probably body shame themselves a lot and are their worst critic but who isn’t right?
That woman you called fat maybe has thyroid problems despite eating a balance diet or has hormonal imbalance; maybe she just went through a personal tragedy. The man you said was too “skinny” may be coping with health or personal issues as well.
The most important thing is if someone is healthy; and that is one thing that you can discuss with your doctor. Someone can be perfectly healthy being a little overweight just like someone can be unhealthy being in their weight range. Let’s start focusing on health and loving ourselves and others before throwing judgement around plus there is more to a person than their physical attributes.