How exciting, you're officially moving in together. You have so many plans – stay up late cuddling in bed and watching movies all the time. Breakfast in bed and waking up to goodmorning kisses everyday. Sounds like bliss, right?…
Then reality hits. Hard. Right in the face. It isn't all rainbows and butterflies, it's compromises and changing plans.
Expectation; You will spend more time together.
Reality; While it isn't entirely untrue – I mean you'll be sleeping together for a good 6-8 hours each night, so that should count for something… Right?.. On the contrary though, when you start living together, you begin to crave "me" time more. You don't have the chance to miss your partner anymore, and you may find yourself wanting to be left alone more.
Expectation; You will have crazy passionate sex all the time.
Reality; Often times – once you begin to see your partner naked more often you lose the sense of urgency and danger which in turn can put a damper on your sex life. This is often especially true for people who are living with their partner for the first time.
Expectation; You will save so much more money.
Reality; When a couple is dating money is often thought of last, whereas intimacy, passion, and the excitement of being with their partner will take precidence. But when you move in together – that sheet that has been blocking all thoughts of money is suddenly yanked off your head. Rather harshly I might add. Suddenly you realize that your partner spends WAY too much money on name brand pasta sauce.
Expectation; You will enjoy cozy nights in bed watching movies together everynight.
Reality; While this sounds nice and may be possible once in a while the reality is often times less than magical. It usually ends with spilled popcorn all over the bed and vacuuming the sheets at midnight. Not exactly romantic.
Expectation; You will fight about literally EVERYTHING that annoys you.
Reality; So he snores in his sleep. So what? You always forget to turn the bathroom light off. You will jab him in the ribs with your elbow so he stops snoring and you will fall back to sleep, and he will mutter to himself about how your hydro bill is high enough to feed an entire third world country, but he will turn the light off.
But that's the beauty of living together. You're the first person they tell all the good news to, and the one they complain to about "Vicky from acccounting – you know, that awful girl who has been sleeping with the boss just for a promotion!" .. You get to wake up to your best friend every morning and kiss them goodnight everynight before you go to sleep. You get to roll over in the middle of the night and wrap your arms around them. You get to smell their awful morning breath.. And you wouldn't change it for the world.