It happened, you and your S.O. just broke up. You’ve been together for a few years, and now you’re having inconsistent thoughts. “Oh great, I’m gonna have to do this dating thing all over again.” “I can do this! I’ve done it before.” “I hate small talk, this is going to be torture.” Everyone has those kind of thoughts after ending a relationship. I’m pretty sure after you have been single for a while you end up thinking, “I’m not sure if I even remember how to start dating again!” Well my friend, love is much like riding a bicycle, it comes naturally.
When you’ve been single for a while, a few months, years, any amount of time, it can be intimidating to get back out there.Possibly even scary, stressful, and exasperating just thinking about having to meet complete strangers again. You probably have tried to think back to when you first met your ex, and how the relationship even started. Well, don’t feel undefeated just yet, because the past is the past and it’s time you move on.
You can’t fall down and give up. You have to get up, get back on that bike, and get out there. If everyone gave up after breakups there wouldn’t be any relationships in the world! Think about it, almost everyone has gone through at least one breakup. Unless you are those people that meet in middle school and stay in love forever…you lucky people you. But honestly, that happens rarely, so you have to just suck it up buttercup, and pull yourself together.
Think of all the positive things about starting a new relationship. It’s exciting, fresh, and has that “spark” you most likely lost touch with throughout the course of your last one. Maybe that spark was still there, and you got your heart broken, but even if that was the case, you can’t live in self-pity land forever.
One day, while you’re out doing whatever, you will run into someone, meet someone, or have known someone, and it’ll happen. You get those butterflies, that excited jumpy feeling where you just wanna bounce around like crazy. Goosebumps, shyness, sweaty hands, stuttering. You will fall in love once again. Then, at that time, you’ll remember exactly what to do.
You’ll remember how to look into someone eyes with sincereness and tell them how you feel. You’ll experience what it’s like to get that first kiss, hug, hand- holding, and commemorate how great it is. Everything you do will start to come with ease. Calling and talking for hours, sometimes about nothing even. Messages throughout the day to remind that person that you care about them. All of the little actions you thought you forgot about will come back, and you won’t even realize you’re doing them.
No matter how long you have been single, or how short, it’s always challenging getting back into the swing of the relationship ways again. Luckily though, our memories help us out everytime. Just as we remember how to ride a bike, no matter how long it’s been, we remember how to, same goes for love.
Hopefully we won’t have to try to remember too many times, and finally get to ride steadily forever.
