I’ve decided to let go. I had feelings for him even after we broke up and he still wanted to be friends. I learned to accept those feelings and push through them. They are only temporary and soon I realized how bad he was for me. I didn’t need that negativity in my life.
I am only in my early twenties. I don’t want to spend the peak of my adulthood being sad about some douche bag who could care less about me. I deserve to be freaking happy. And you know what? I’m going to do just that.
If you’re going through a break up, let me tell you right now: I know the feeling. You’re allowed to be sad and feel hurt. But you’re also allowed to be happy and you deserve to be. You shouldn’t spend large amounts of time dwelling on something or someone that cannot be fixed.
Go out with your friends, let loose and enjoy the little things in life. Watch the sunset and take the time to admire it. Be daring. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Life is too short and if you spend it being upset over a jerk, you might out on a lot of great things.
It will be hard to get out and back to a routine at first. You may need some convincing to do it. But trust me, it will be worth it. A night out with the girls is a great thing and you should take it when you can. That helped me so much when I was having a hard time getting out of the house. I was so upset that I stayed in the same spot for almost a week.
All I could do was cry. It’s perfectly normal when you’re going through a rough break up. But after all the tears are out, pick yourself up and go for a walk. Fresh air helps clear the mind. Don’t pick a destination, just walk to wherever your feet take you.
You can have fun. Do things that make you happy. Don’t try to please anyone, just yourself. You don’t owe anyone an explanation to what you’re doing or why. Just do what brings you joy and peace of mind.
It’s okay to meet new people. Don’t jump into a new relationship right away, but build a friendship and maybe eventually it could turn into something else. You shouldn’t feel obligated to be committed to anything right now. You’re still healing.
You also should focus on yourself before you consider dating anyone else. You can’t be happy with anyone else if you aren’t happy with yourself. Your well-being is extremely important and you need to take care of yourself and love yourself first.
You deserve to be happy. Don’t let the other person see how unhappy you are or how hurt. Don’t give them that type of power over you or your emotions. It is okay to grieve, but there comes a point where you need to let go. Cut them out of your life anymore. They don’t need to be a part of you anymore; they are exes for a reason. Keep it that way.
