It’s disgusting to think that one group of women has to put another group of women down to feel better about themselves.
Some women, like myself, are naturally thin. Yes, I eat. Yes, I’d love to gain weight. I’ve tried my whole life to have thick sexy legs, but my frame was built tiny and no matter how much I try I may never achieve those legs.
And just like heavier girls, I’ve been teased too.
Skinny girls can’t help being skinny any more than overweight girls can help being overweight. We’re both human, and we’re both vulnerable.
The media has un-deliberately vilified thin women by holding them responsible for society’s beauty standards, and accusing models for example, of having eating disorders and setting a bad example for girls everywhere.
To counter that, many campaigns like Dove have risen to promote “healthier” body types.
“Real Women Have Curves” Dove has used it in its Real Beauty Campaign and it’s one of the most used quotes when showing support to women who are… well, curvier.
Technically all women have curves, big or small, they’re there; curves are a part of all feminine silhouettes, but people have taken this quote that’s meant to celebrate women of ALL body types out of context.
Instead they use it to support all body types THAT ARE NOT thin types, because apparently if you’re thin, you don’t have curves. Hence, you are not a real woman. Sorry.
Oh damn! I forgot I don’t have “curves” because … well, that’s just been genetically impossible for me. Damn you fast metabolism! Now I can’t ever be considered a REAL woman. I guess all there’s left to do is to pretend to be one!! HA!
Another one is “Being skinny is not good, being healthy is.” Many girls that are skinny believe it or not, are in fact, healthy.
Most of these “confidence boosters” are counterproductive. They enhance one groups confidence while they scrutinize and put down another’s.
Not everyone who is thin wants to be, just like not everyone who is overweight wants to be either. Messages like the ones I just discussed are in the public eye everyday and sometimes we think them and sometimes we say them, and we don’t know how they will affect the receiving end.
If you have to put someone down to validate your own weight then there’s a deeper self-esteem issue lying there. Instead of worrying about others focus on yourself.
Work on the body you want to achieve. A body that you believe is healthy for you, because what may be healthy for you may not be healthy for others. You’re only given one life, and in that life only one body to through it with, so love the body you’re in.
I love mine and I think it’s beautiful.