In a day and age where instant gratification and narcissism are socially accepted, finding a good partner is hard to come by.
It also makes it hard to figure out when “the line” has been crossed.
Social media and technology have created this morally questionable grey area which has turned into a giant abyss of heartache and bullsh*t.
He’s not texting you but he’s all over Facebook. He read your message hours ago but hasn’t responded. He likes/comments/posts photos of half naked women. He’s little too flirty with his comments or private messages. He likes photos of his ex. So on and so forth.
There’s all of this stuff that’s happening, and maybe none of it is necessarily wrong but something doesn’t feel quite right.
You feel a little slighted but you also feel like maybe you shouldn’t.
It’s a hard thing to deal with because on one hand he’s not necessarily doing anything wrong, it’s his account. On the other hand, his behavior gives off a certain vibe.
We’ve all had days where we don’t feel like texting or communicating, it happens. That’s not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about when it’s happening all the time. When they’re choosing social media and instant gratification over you.
So where is the line?
How do you stop getting stuck in the grey area?
Love, sex and relationships have become so easy to find because social media and technology have brought us together in so many different ways.
But it also makes it easy to fall back on when things get hard.
You get into a fight with your partner and where do they go? Social media. Whether they’re just browsing, they’re “talking” to someone, or blasting it all over their profile.
They fall back on it because it’s easy. It’s instant gratification and validation that makes them feel better.
And then it happens over and over and over again.
How does it affect your trust?
How does it affect your relationship?
In a perfect world, you’d have this type of conversation early on and then that would be that but that’s not how it always goes.
Everyone has their own opinion on what crosses the line.
You just have to stay strong and hope that one day you find someone you can agree with and continue to agree with throughout your relationship.
But until then you’re not crazy, you’re not insecure. You’re picking up on the vibes they’re sending you (or other people).
Don’t ever feel bad about that.
Stick to what you believe. Don’t get stuck in the grey area.