Dating is such a confusing battle ground of emotions. You’re back and forth between excitement and fear. You live in an anxiety bubble because you’re both happy worried at the same time. It’s this never-ending roller coaster that has so many highs and lows.
There are times when you date the wrong guy. When your heart and your head battle and you date people who don’t treat you right.
It’s those guys who blow you off, refuse to meet your friends, disappear all the time, and don’t want to have anything to do with you on social media.
Yet despite it all, you stick around. You take hit after hit, thinking that at some point, he will change.
But he never does.
And it scars you.
Then finally the universe lines back up and you meet a good guy.
Suddenly your world view shifts and your self-value goes back up.
He’s the one that goes out of his way for you.
The guy that always texts you first.
The one that isn’t trying to just hook up with you.
The guy who meets your friends and loves to be social with them.
The guy that brings you food and argues with you over letting him pay.
The guy that listens and hones in on everything you say.
The guy that notices when you’re quiet and watches your body language to know if something is wrong.
The good guy.
The best guy.
But somewhere along the way, he missed his connection.
The flight to your heart didn’t come.
You were there.
You made it.
The butterflies took flight and you were buckled in, but he never arrived.
Sometimes the good guys leave you too.
He lets you know how great you are. He worries over how upset you are, feels bad for being yet another person to break you down. And you can’t even be mad because he was so unbelievably perfect.
Even his breakup speech was polite.
And you find yourself asking God why? Why am I here in this place again? Did I not deserve the good guy? Did I not deserve the happiness I was given?
But here’s the thing. You DID deserve it. Maybe he didn’t love you or start to catch the feelings you were, but he still gave you something: self-worth.
It sucks to lose someone, no matter how brief they were around.
It sucks to feel like you’re finally moving towards something good.
But everything happens for a reason and that good guy you found?
He taught you what you deserve.
He showed you what a relationship is supposed to look like.
He showed you that you don’t have to put up with people not texting back or refusing to meet your friends or disappearing.
He showed you that guys are capable of all of those things and you’re absolutely worth having it.
And maybe down the road he’ll realize just what he’s missing by leaving, or maybe he’s not over his last relationship. Who really knows.
But all YOU need to know, is that you’re beautiful and you’re smart and you’re worth the WORLD.
You’re worth sleepless nights of talking and going to work exhausted.
You’re worth random drinks with your friends where he’s the only guy.
You’re worth emotional talks about your family and things that are hard to say.
You’re worth good morning texts and sweet dreams messages.
You’re worth someone checking in on you.
You’re worth someone showing up at your door with food. You’re worth someone wishing you good luck and being proud of your successes.
Darling, take everything that nice guy gave you, and hold onto it.
You can be sad.
You can cry.
You can text him you miss him.
You can even hate him a little for hurting you.
But you can’t forget what this taught you.
You are EVERYTHING, so don’t ever settle for anything less.
He was the good guy.
But you?
You’re the GREAT girl, and that’s SO much better.
