I don’t really know what has gotten into people’s minds that they think me being skinny means I’m unhealthy. Being skinny must mean that I starve myself or am suffering from depression. Complete strangers suddenly have a vast amount of knowledge regarding my emotional and physical background. So much, as to go as far as to jump to conclusions regarding my weight. So what gives, Millennials? I thought body positivity was trending. Do my hip dips not count?
Here we are in this brand new emotional time for this generation or really for any generation, making leaps and bounds. We come together as one and support the unsupported. I see posts all over online with descriptions saying: “she’s thick and beautiful” and “women need to have curves”. My small sized thighs are not applauding…literally. Am I supposed to be ashamed of my body for being petite? I find myself sometimes hesitating to reach for the size 0 jeans and wondering if I should just commit to a size 3.
But, you’re not going to get to me. I will NOT let you get to me. I will eat those cheeseburgers and chicken wings on my own time, so stop telling me what to do. I will wave my skinny flag unashamed because these size 0 pants make my ass look great!
Next time you want to try to bring my flag down, refer to these.
“Real women have curves.”
Try: “I clearly don’t understand the different body types of a female. Yours may not be my preference, but that doesn’t make you any less of a woman”.
All women are women, regardless of their shape. A woman could be pear, apple, or green eggs and ham shaped and guess what? She’s still a woman. Go take an Anatomy class.
“Do you ever eat anything?”
Try: “Let’s all get dinner sometime, on me for the next hundred years! Or, I can make a homemade meal.”
What kind of question is that? Well, if I didn’t eat anything I wouldn’t be here. Instead, offer this woman some food. Go purchase her a nice greasy steak and maybe a side of mashed potatoes. She might even just eat the whole thing and then order that chocolate lava cookie.
“I want to be skinny, but not as skinny as you!”
Try: “I’m trying to lose weight. My goal is to drop 25lbs and then maintain it”.
Exactly just how skinny am I? Pretty sure you’re not my doctor and if you are, you’re fired. Some people have trouble gaining weight, just like some people struggle losing weight. Some people are just naturally smaller, just like some people are naturally bigger.
“You need to eat a cheeseburger.”
Try: “My name is Candice, nice to meet you”.
Why do people I don’t even know say this to me? I will probably never know. But, I do know this. I eat so many cheeseburgers, I’m practically made out of them. Now, get off my case.
Everybody is beautiful and every body is beautiful.