"When women support each other, incredible things happen."
Throughout history, women have a tendency to take a backseat to men, not because they aren't powerful in their own right, but more so because they can't seem to get their shit together.
Now, before you start criticizing me, let me explain.
We mean well, and we can do anything we damn well please. We can do anything a man can do, and we can do it while wearing heels. The problem is, we also have a tendency to be catty bitches. Instead of holding each other up, instead of encouraging each other, instead of supporting each other, we take every chance we get to take each other down.
What's worse is, we are never obvious about it. At least when men don't like each other, they flat out tell each other "hey man, I don't like you." They fight it out, and that's that. End of story.
Women, on the other hand, are passive aggressive as hell, and won't openly admit that we don't like each other. Which is why we can't seem to run the world, even though we're damn capable of it.
So here's what needs to happen. We need to WOMAN UP, and support each other! My sisters and my best friends support me, and with their support, I have become the woman I am today. I have become more confident, I have become stronger, I have become a better person, all because I have the support of the women in my life.
Girls have always grown up, guided to depend on the guys in our lives, to base our self-worth on their opinions. In elementary school, we were told that if a boy was mean to us, it was because he had a crush on us. We were taught from a young age that we needed men to validate our existence.
I'm here to say that frankly, that's bullshit. I grew up, like any little girl, dreaming of meeting my Prince Charming, of my wedding day, of being a mom and having kids of my own. And while I still can't wait for that part of my life, I've come to a realization.
While one day, that will be a part of my life, right now it's not in the cards for me. I lost myself in my last relationship, in him. I focused on what he wanted, what was best for him, rather than myself. I based some of my decisions around him.
Because I was in love. And while I won't say that I regret the relationship (there were good days, as there are in all relationships, romantic or otherwise), I regret that I forgot who I was.
So for now, I'll focus on my own self and my girl friends. I'll focus on lifting up the girls in my life and being lifted up by them at the same time.
I'll support them, because they've been there for me when I didn't know who I was and helped me to find myself again, and I hope that if any of this sounds like you, that you'll do the same.
