To have the sexiest experience ever, you need to play the game in full. Sex is an intimate, sensual encounter between people that requires both physical and mental aspects. The three P’s include: Pre, Present, and Post and all are critical for that truly bold experience that you cannot seem to get out of your head.
The Pre: The pre tends to be the part that requires the most mental work after that it is mostly physical. The sexy mannerisms, as well as the subtle kisses and whispering sets the mood. Ladies, a little sexy talk in his ear goes a long way. Most men will agree that they are more turned on when women say something in bed, rather than making no noise whatsoever. Never fake a moan though, because the more you pretend, the father away from a state of euphoria. Stay true to the moment, and if you feel moved, then express it with both your dirty (or clean) thoughts and sounds. In the case that this is the first time you are having sex with this person, then there can be the natural nerves that prevent you from really committing to the sex. Sometimes if I am nervous to say something during foreplay, I close my eyes and focus on how it feels physically, and then convert that into words. Allow yourself to get lost during this stage, crave him/her, and tease one another. If role-playing is your “thing”, this is the stage where the mood is set; you can be anyone or anything you want. Be creative. It’s more thrilling once you get into it, and when you get past the initial nerves, you’ll be so happy that you tried it out, and maybe want to do it more often.
The Present: Now it’s time to take all that “talk”, and make it real. This step involves your bodies and using them to express the moment. Don’t be afraid to get kinky, boys and girls. Pull into your deepest fantasy and let it take the lead. If you like to dominate, then consider blindfolding or tying them to the bed, so that you can do your worst. This is the step where all people involved get to feel alive. If you crave his cock deeper inside of you, whisper it softly in his ear, scream it out or even moan it out. Let the moment guide you; ride the waves, and take chances. The rest will come naturally, and always remember that simply closing your eyes and fantasizing a bit will always put you in your ideal sexy mood.
The Post: Some refer to this stage as the “after sex snuggle”. Personally, it could be anything, but it has to be something. Stay in the moment as long as you can. If you are drawn to go outside, lay in a field, and just talk about your favorite painting or music artist, then that’s your post. If you both love pizza and want to adventure to your nearest “best pizza in ___”, that’s your post. It could be even more subtle: a moment where you share to him/her your favorite poem or quote that you live by, and tell them why. Most anything works, but it must be something, something that fits the moment and mood. This stage is important, because this is where you can make a deeper connection with this person. Some people love the one-night stands because of whatever reason, but most people truly desire and appreciate the raw and real effort to make a connection past the physical one.
Sex is more than a physical act, but you do not have to go to the full extent of calling it “making love” if it isn’t. Sex is an intimate experience that can reach new levels with each step in mind. Remember though, it isn’t clockwork; these are guidelines. Everyone has a different mind, and with a different mind comes different sexual fantasies that truly combine each, and incorporating that in the pre, present, and post will make incredible, mind blowing sex.
