Hopefully by now, whoever’s reading this has gotten in & out of relationships. Breaking up is hard to do, especially when you deeply loved that person. I know from experience that losing someone truly hurts the heart. It’s a form of depression basically. You go through shock, pain, anger, and loneliness. In order to move on, you have to go through those stages of grief. It’s a part of life.
After the initial aftershock try to focus on these next steps:
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Don’t question the decision you made
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Don’t start unnecessary drama
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Stay out of the ex’s friend group
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Focus on your own needs/wants
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Cry it out, and don’t be afraid to do so
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Block all sorts of social communication
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Partake in new activities to replace the free time you now have
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Talk it out with your friends or a therapist
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Try to refrain from “bumping” into them
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Baby steps, aka take one day at a time
After my breakups, I would cry during the oddest times of the day. Sitting in class, taking notes, then all of a sudden you pop into my head for a milla-second, and I start to tear up. As embarrassing as it was, I realized it's going to happen regardless.
Sadness may feel like your living in s l o w m o t I o n, but it’s important to know that you can’t rush this process. It’s kind of like digestion: there is nothing you can do to hurry it up! The only thing you can do is fight it out. Like everything else, it will eventually pass.
Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with you, and that what you're going through is 100% normal! You have every right to find true happiness but know that it comes deep within yourself. Treat yourself with kindness & try to find one thing every day that pleases you.
