Once you've gotten rid of the narcissist in your life and no longer have to deal with constant abuse, you'll be free to move on to better things.
But it's no small task. When you're on the verge of leaving, they’ll try everything to pull you back into their world. If you fall for it, they'll dig their hooks even deeper than they were before.
Love bombing is a narcissist's sneakiest tactic; they'll shower you with praise and affection when they sense you're pulling away. They'll tell you everything you've ever wanted to hear if it means keeping control over you.
I know it can be hard to resist, but be strong; don’t fall for it. Narcissists aren't capable of real love. They’re master manipulators and their skills only increase with each new victim.
They love bomb you to make it seem like they’re trying to make the relationship work. Their end goal is to make you look like the monster and themselves the victim.
But you’re not a monster for ending a relationship with a narcissist. You’ve survived emotional, physical, psychological, and other forms of abuse and you're rightfully fed up.
Enduring the cycle of day to day abuse, passive aggressive manipulation, constant attempts to make you look like the bad guy, and love bombing by a narcissist is severely toxic and weighs heavily on a person’s mental state.
When you finally decide to cut all ties with the narcissist, don’t be alarmed by how quickly the love bombing switches to hateful attacks; it’s what they do best.
They’ll go from “I love you, I can’t live without you” to “I hate you so much, you fucking idiot” in the blink of an eye, which proves how little they actually value you.
Just ignore it – everything they tell you is a complete lie. Narcissists don’t know how to distinguish between what’s real and what isn't.
After you decide to remove their toxicity from your life, you’ll need to block them from everything: social media, calling, texting, emailing, etc.
They’ll create fake numbers, emails, and social media profiles to stalk you online and get your attention. If they keep trying to communicate with you from new/fake accounts, block them immediately; don’t even respond.
All responding will do is fuel their ego. They’re trying to get to you and worm their way back into your life and you need to be strong enough to stop them.
Sometimes they’ll drop off the grid for awhile, but they always come back when they sense you’re recovering from their abuse and moving on.
If they continue to try to contact you against your wishes, take the next step and contact the police. Keep a record of everything they’ve said and done to you.
Now, everyone says mean things in the heat of the moment, but the cruel, disgusting things a narcissist says are in a league of their own.
Because a narcissist does and says hateful things because they get a kick out of hurting people. It’s like a drug to them; they get off on causing anguish.
They'll always try to spin a situation so they look like the victim. They love saying “Oh, I’m so traumatized from what my ex said/did to me. They were so horrible.” But it's total bullshit.
By getting rid of the narcissist in your life, you’ve already won. Even though recovering and healing will take time, the hard part is over.
You've won your life back and you'll never let someone take it from you again.