Growing up, I loved getting Valentine’s Day cards from my classmates. It was the thing to do- pass cards around and get candy. Super innocent stuff. Then, one year, I noticed how a few kids didn’t get as many cards as others. That was when my bubble was burst; not everyone likes this day.
Valentine’s Day is a day comprised of the color pink, fancy dates, chocolate, and lingerie. What’s so bad about that? Absolutely nothing.
The fact that it’s an over-sold, one-day-thing that makes people feel lonely as hell? Yeah, there’s something wrong with that.
In High School, most girls were delivered flowers or got chocolates from their secret admirer. Don’t get me wrong, I got that too some years, but every time I didn’t, I felt forgotten.
The cards weren’t passed around to everyone anymore…it became a choice. You pick a person you like and do things for them. But if you weren’t picked, you didn’t get anything. Who knew that one day out of the year could make some people feel so left out?
It didn’t stop there either. In college, no one really pays too much attention to those things, but when all your friends are in a relationship, it’s hard to ignore that lonely feeling in the back of your mind. You end up feeling the same as that little girl in elementary school who didn’t get that one card from that one person.
It seriously sucks.
I’m all for the feminist route where I don’t need a man to make me happy, but sometimes it’s nice to have someone to go out with, you know? And I hate that this one day makes me feel like something is wrong with me if I don’t have a special person next to me.
I am special without a man to tell me I am. I’m alone, but I’m not lonely. Even though Valentine's Day can make people really feel their loneliness, I refuse. It’s just a day.
So for all those people who feel alone on this day, go to the store and buy a big bottle of wine, or whiskey if you’re like me, some chocolate for yourself, and spend it with some of your other single friends.
And if you’re in a relationship, I’m happy for you. Go buy that lingerie and show off that you have that special someone in your life. I’d appreciate if you didn’t rub it in my face, but we all know your pictures will be all over Instagram.
I’m just glad I like the color pink. And chocolate.
So Happy Valentine’s Day everyone. May your day be happy despite your relationship status.
