I’m pretty sure by now you’ve caught yourself in a pattern, and if not, keep your eyes open. You keep finding yourself in these situations, trying to be the hero.
Whether it be a liar, a cheater, a man with an addiction, severe anger issues, etc., your love cannot fix them.
You’re holding onto the belief that if you show him what true, genuine, unconditional love is, he will realize that.
He will value you, he will change.
You’re in pain every single day because you’re trying so hard to hold on, to stick it out.
You made a commitment, and you are going to stand by it.
You try to wait patiently, but the end never seems to come.
He may spend a few hours, or even a few days, being the man that you’ve been waiting for, only to go right back to those behaviors that drive you crazy.
It’s so frustrating, but that small glimpse of the man that you’ve been dreaming of is what you hold on to, giving you hope for the future.
You turn down so many opportunities to be truly happy, to really feel alive, because your dedication to him is your main priority.
You love him so much, you can’t let him down. But let me ask you a question, how many times has he let you down?
See, it’s normal for people to have issues, we all do. The problem arises when his issues consume your life, destroy your happiness.
There is a difference between supporting him, and letting him walk all over you.
See, he knows you’re going to stand by him, he knows you won’t give up. He knows that you will continue to wait, no matter how many times he messes up. The only way for him to truly change is for him to truly want to change.
Your love can not, and will not change him. It’s time for you to start focusing on yourself, on what makes you happy.
If you spend your whole life trying to pick up his broken pieces, you are bound to cut yourself on more than a few of them.
Maybe he deserves your love, maybe he doesn’t. You have to take a step back and evaluate things. Look at all of the things that you do for him on a daily basis.
What has he tried to do to make a change? What has he gone out of his way to do for you? Does he prioritize your feelings? Does he try his best to make you smile?
At the end of the day, you have to remain true to yourself. You have to do what is healthy for you, because otherwise, you’ll both end up broken, and all of your efforts will have been for nothing.
You are so kind and compassionate and loving, a woman like you is rare. It’s time that you realize that.