I would rather have you be blunt than waste my time dazzling me with your pretty lies.
No wonder everyone is so damn jaded and afraid of being themselves. I get it! As much as I want to believe in people and give each person a fair chance, the lack of authenticity has conditioned me to doubt people and their motives. And that is an awful feeling, just about as awful as the moment that person who seemed soo super genuine proved to be another joke.
Call me delusional, but I dream of a world where authenticity is still a common trait. A world where people can be upfront with their intentions instead of pulling the mystery card and leaving people banging their head against a wall, stuck on repeat, trying to figure out what the fuck is going on.
We’ve all been through it at least once in life, and let’s face it – it freaking sucks!
I appreciate authenticity and the ability to be direct. In my opinion, it seems like it would be exhausting dancing around behind insincere formalities and pretenses. Isn’t it easier to be upfront than skirting around an issue? Does it not require more effort to hold back, make excuses, or constantly pretend?
I’m not naive, I understand why people take this approach. It’s fun, it’s a challenge, people are cowards, honesty can be uncomfortable… Whatever. You’ve hidden behind this whole facade, giving your best song and dance, and then you land yourself in a sticky situation where shit is getting thick – and now you wonder, “how the fuck did this even happen?!”
Well my friend, that’s what happens when you come from an angle that isn’t genuine or authentic. When you lead people to believe you are someone or are interested in something, that you’re not. Silly you, it could have all been avoided if you had just been upfront. Here’s an example:
You’re only looking for a hookup? A distraction? Someone to chat or hang out with when you’re bored or lonely? Great! Let people know from the beginning. There’s a definite chance that plenty of others are out there looking for the same. Stop wasting the time of people who aren’t heading that direction, what the hell did they do to deserve the head trip and disappointment bound to follow?
Did you catch feelings? Get scared, or feel insecure? Maybe you lost interest? Use your big boy/girl words. Yeah, it’s a tough conversation, but the other people involved deserve to know. And it should take some weight off your shoulders too. If someone shares their feelings with you or asks you a question – don’t evade it, ignore them, or placate them. Just deal with it and be honest. It saves you the headache you’ll get from prolonging or running from it, and it saves them a headache they’ll get from banging their head against a wall trying to figure you out.
I’ll give you authenticity: I’ll speak my mind, vomit my thoughts, and voice my intentions. I only ask for the same consideration. If you can’t handle that level of honesty, don’t even approach me. No matter what your motives may be, just say it like it is. In a world masked by ulterior motives and false pretenses, the direct approach is so refreshing!