You know this feeling all too well.
You’re two twenty-something years old driving down the road screaming Adele like it’s your job. You’re huddled under one umbrella in the pouring rain laughing your butt off about something that happened a year ago.
You’re reassuring each other over copious amounts of wine that neither of you will ever leave each other’s side whilst drying the other’s tears because they just got dumped by a fling.
This is your best friend, your soul sister, your other half. You tell each other nothing is ever going to change EVER.
But then it does.
Your best friend meets the man of her dreams at a party and becomes totally obsessed with the idea of getting married and starting a family of her own. She starts acting like the ring is already on her finger and becomes almost completely incapable of going anywhere without him.
Suddenly “Girls Night” is almost non-existent and going out for drinks always means going out for drinks with her and her man. As much as you want to, it just feels impossible to bring up the topic of your disappearing girl time.
You definitely approve of him, and you love her and the fact that she’s happy…but it just feels like you’ll look like a dick if you open your mouth and tell her how you really feel.
You’re frustrated because you feel like you’re losing your best friend, but shouldn’t you be happy for her?
After all, you have the same goals of eventually settling down and having a family. You dream of meeting Mr. Perfect when you’re out with the girls one night and getting swept off your feet. You two are just on different time schedules.
Neither is behind and neither is ahead. Every life is unique and progresses in its own way.
The truth is, if you were in her shoes you would probably act the same way.
Every friend wants encouragement and support and while it might seem unfair at the moment, it is not worth losing each other over.
Growing up at different times is not worth losing each other over. Growing out of the bar scene and is inevitable, some of us just get pulled out of it before the rest of us are done having fun.
More than likely, the chances are that once your friend is out of the honeymoon phase with her man, she’ll need a “Girls Night” again to as her little escape and you will be the first one she calls.
Don’t feel like she’s using you, she’s just beginning to find the right balance in her life, and she knows you are a huge part of the big picture.
You guys will have your wine nights and wild days running around in the summers again — just the two of you. You will have the same moments of reminiscing and laughing about the good times, except there will be so many more memories to look back on.
It’s simple really…both of you will grow out of certain things, but it’s important to remember that you don’t have to grow out of each other!
