“Well hold on, my darling. This mess was yours. Now your mess is mine.”
-Vance Joy
I need you to understand something. When I fell in love with you, I fell in love with ALL of you.
I fell in love with your strength and your heart. I fell in love with your quirks and your stories. I fell in love with every part of you, the good and the bad.
Mostly, I fell in love with creating a life with you.
And I know that this life is not going to be without struggles.
But, that doesn’t scare me. Because from now on, it’s always going to be you and me. We are a team now. When you’re hurting, I’m hurting.
I know that you have baggage, and you’ve grown incredibly weary from the weight of it. It’s okay. Let me help you unpack your sadness and your pain.
You can tell me your thoughts, your fears, your dreams. I will keep them all safe.
I will help you get through whatever trials you’re going through.
I know you’re not used to that because last time you opened up your heart to someone, they let you down.
And, I know that there will be times that I let you down too.
But, what I can promise you, is that we can make it through anything if we just hold on to each other.
I’m never going to give up on you.
And, I know when the time comes, you won’t give up on me either. Because relationships aren’t about keeping score. They aren’t always 50/50 give and take because life doesn’t work that way.
So, there are times when you need to let me help you. Let me be there for you.
And have enough faith in me to know that your demons don’t scare me. I will battle them with you.
This life hasn’t always been easy, and this love won’t be either.
But no matter what we face, I will still choose you. I will always choose you. I will choose to see the good in you and have faith in us even when things get hard.
So, it’s not just your chaos. It’s not just your mess. Because it’s our mess. And it’s choosing each other every day in spite of the mess.
It’s our love story, and it is worth it. We are worth it.
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