This article is in response to "To The 'Best Friend' Who Cut Me Out Like I Never Existed."
It killed me to realize that I could no longer be friends with you, but I needed true friends in my life; friends who would listen to and care for me as I do for them (and always did for you.)
As much as we may hate it, sometimes we don't grow at the same rate as the people we love. It's not necessarily anybody's fault, it's just an unfortunate reality.
Losing friends is always painful but I’ve learned that people come into and out of our lives for a reason. The reason may not always be immediately apparent, but it's there.
I needed someone to confide in, a shoulder to lean on. I needed friends who would reciprocate the love I gave them. I needed more than the one-sided friendship you offered.
You say that you forgive me for stepping away from our friendship and that’s fine, but I don’t need to be forgiven. I make no apologies for doing what was best for me.
When I think about the time we spent together and the memories we made, I have no regrets. What I do regret is sitting in silence as you let everything fall upon my shoulders.
There are two sides to every story and hearing mine was never a priority for you. It was far easier for you to let me take the blame for our falling out.
Since leaving our friendship, I’ve never spoken poorly of you. It saddens me to hear that hasn’t been mutual. I don’t see the point in trying to hate someone you truly cared for who just doesn’t fit into your life anymore.
I agree, our memories can never be devalued. I still talk about them to this day. Sometimes I look back on them and reminisce fondly. Other times, I think back and remember exactly why I left.
I’m not angry anymore because this “break-up” has taught me that I’m so much bigger than all of the pettiness that came out of it. It has also reassured me that I made the right decision by walking away.
I hope you find this eventually because here’s what I need you to hear:
Thank you for being my person and making so many memories alongside me.
Know that I don’t hate you and I never will.
I'll always be here for you, that will never change.
Our friendship meant the world to me too.
I had to leave because you just couldn’t be the friend I needed.
If you ever wanted to talk about it, I’d be more than happy to.
I’m sorry for hurting you, but I’m not sorry for ending our friendship.
I genuinely hope that you're happy and wish nothing but the best for you.
