Here you are a few months out of your relationship and these moments of happiness start to take over. Your smile comes a little easier, your eyes shine a little brighter, and the weight on your shoulders is a little lighter. And then the moment comes when you ask yourself, “Is he happy too?” This is a life changing moment in the post break up world and it could define your future in one of two ways; you either realize his happiness shouldn’t control yours or you let that question tear you apart from the inside out. Do you remember the first night when all you could was cry and ask yourself “how could this get any easier?” Or the next day when you’re stuck between begging for him back or keeping your dignity. Sadly, many us say to hell with our dignity and pour our hearts into a text that never get a response. The minutes drag on and on as they turn into hours, the hours turn into days, and the days turn into weeks, until one day and you wake up with the sun shining on your life and for the first time in awhile you’re feeling a little hopeful. I’m here to tell you that your happiness is your happiness, you should never let his future happiness dictate your life. The relationship ended for a reason and whatever that reason may be he’s gone, out of our life, and when things start to look up rise your head towards the sky and that happiness flow through. Beautiful girl you are worth so much more than a broken heart and the world wants to see you smile. You made it through the rough patch and that is something worth celebrating so, celebrate you shall do. Go out for drinks with the girls on a Saturday night and then curl up with your cat and some ice cream on a Sunday afternoon. You have accomplished a victory and you deserve a medal for all that you've been through. I’m not saying you may never feel pain or that you won’t cry over him again, but I am saying that one day you won’t and the memories of him will warm your heart instead of turning it ice cold. But until that day comes be the beautiful and chaotic god given mess that you are and embrace your happiness. Because the boy who made you cry shouldn’t get to take all your smiles anymore.