Baby girl, we’ve all been there. We’ve all lost someone who we thought was our whole world, someone we thought we’d spend the rest of forever with. It’s okay to be upset. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to miss him.
You deserve better. If he’s not there fighting for your love, he’s not the one for you. It’s sad, but it’s the truth. I know you want him. Your heart is with him and I understand that. You wish he’d change into the man you know he has the potential to be, but the harsh reality is that he’s just not that man. He’s not going to change for you and that’s how you know he’s truly not the man for you.
You have every right to feel however you’re feeling. I know you’re willing to wait around until he’s ready to be the man you need him to be because you love him. You’re not obligated to do that. Don’t do that. No matter how much you want to or feel the need to, don’t.
“Waiting for you is like waiting for rain in this drought: useless and disappointing.”
A little more harsh reality: he’s not sitting around, crying over you or thinking about you. He’s not worrying about how you’re doing or the damage he’s caused. He’s not losing sleep or drowning himself at the bottom of a bottle to get over you. He’s probably off, having the time of his life with his friends and possibly someone new.
Somewhere out there, there’s a man who’s ready to give you the world. There’s a man out there who’s going to appreciate everything that he took for granted. You may not find him tomorrow or next week, but he’s out there.
You’re worth so much more than what he’s putting you through. You have to realize that. I know it’s cliche, but everything happens for a reason. Cry it out. Scream it out. Bleed it out. When that’s all said and done, move on. It’s easier said than done, but you’re strong and you can do it.
Sincerely,
The Girl Who’s Been There
