These are my five non-negotiable rules. It’s not too much to ask and should be common sense, but you know guys these days. I know how I deserve to be treated and I refuse to put up with anything less.
1. No games. Don’t be a fuckboy.
I don’t have time for your games and lack of commitment. I’m not looking to jump into anything that isn’t right for me. I’m not looking to rush anything. But, I also won’t wait forever for you to make a decision. If you want me then be with me, if you don’t then don’t. Simple as that. I refuse to be another girl that you screw over and that falls victim to your immature ways. I respect and love myself enough to not put up with someone who isn’t good for me or wants to play games. I am not afraid to walk away. Understand that I don’t need you, I want you. So, I won’t put up with any shit. I’ve grown up and I want to be with someone who has too.
2. Complete honesty
I’m a very straight forward and blunt person. I say what I want and I mean what I say. I lay it all on the table and I expect the same in return. I don’t hide anything, I don’t believe that I should hold back. I cut to the chase. I believe in talking about the stuff that is important on the first date and not just exchanging common courtesies and small talk. I’m not afraid to talk about my past or get deep. I want you to know mine and know yours. Ask me a question and I will answer. That goes with feelings too. I want to be on the same page and leave room for misunderstandings and ambiguity. I am who I am and I won’t ever apologize for that.
3. Good communication
I know you’re busy with your life, I am too. I don’t expect you to text me back every second of every day. I just expect you to be able to carry on a conversation and respond in a reasonable amount of time. And if you don’t reply, I won’t double text you. I won’t come chasing you. If you don’t walk to talk to me, I understand. I don’t want to talk to someone who doesn’t want to talk to me either. I don’t have any time or patience for someone who isn’t reliable and shows flakey behavior. I don’t have time for someone who wants to play communication games or withhold it. Be able to talk about things in a mature way and be able to express yourself. Be consistent and reliable. Be able to communicate like an adult.
4. Be able to make plans. Respect me and my time.
I have a busy schedule and a busy life. I’m sure you do too. I won’t rearrange my life for you and I don’t expect you to rearrange yours for me. So if I give you some of my time, please respect that. Appreciate that and understand that if I want to spend time with you I think that you are worth it. I want to invest in you. I value my time and hate wasting it. I can’t just go with the flow and plan to do something in the moment. I can’t just decide to do something based on how I feel. I have to plan ahead of time and I need you to respect that. Be able to make a plan and if you need to cancel or reschedule have the common decency to let me know beforehand. I’m not trying to waste my time. We should both respect and value each other’s time. Because if you disrespect my time, you disrespect me. And I’ll give you once chance and then I’ll walk because I won’t be disrespected.
5. Follow through with what you say.
Actions speak louder than words. I am way over the phase of being flattered and believing what people say. You won’t win me over or get in my pants with your smooth words. If your actions match your words then I will believe you. If they don’t align, I’ll leave. I don’t believe anything anyone says until they show me that they mean it. I don’t have time for people that say things that they don’t mean. Keeping my word and promises are extremely important things to me that I take seriously. I trust people who actually mean what they say and follow through. I respect people who are dependable and are big on actions.
Bonus: It’s not all about sex.
I understand that physicality is important. But, before that I need to find a real connection. A deeper and intellectual connection. If we don’t connect in that way, I don’t want to connect with you in any other ways. I’m not like most girls. I actually want to get to know who you are. I need to be able to decide how I feel about you. And it makes it ten times harder if I involve physicality. I will not do anything before I’m ready or without being in a relationship. Don’t try me, don’t pressure me. So if you want that girl that you can sleep with before commitment, I’m not that girl. You either respect that or you don’t.