Dear Landon's* Wife:
You don't know me, yet you have probably heard about me. I would hope that at this point in your relationship you guys would have talked about past loves and that Landon would tell you about me and the all consuming love we shared for a few years.
Since I know Landon better than I know myself sometimes, I know that he would have been reassuring you throughout the entire conversation that I am a part of his past. And, much to my dismay, he is right.
Landon and I were destined to never work out, his family made sure of that. But we held on to a special place in our hearts for one another, knowing we would never be together and yet having a hard time moving on.
Now, I know your real name, but for the sake of my anonymity (and yours), I am going to call you Lexi*. The last time I saw Landon was in 2011, a couple of months before I went on a trip. We had an amazing time together, but I will spare you the details.
We made promises of keeping in touch while I was gone for those two months, and we did, for the most part. We also made plans to go to dinner as soon as I got back to Oregon. But by that point, he had already met you.
I found out through mutual friends, and I was extremely hurt and sad by this news. I had held onto this hope that maybe, just maybe, he and I could reconcile. Unfortunately, it wasn't to be.
Landon and I were never going to work out for a multitude of reasons: He wanted kids, I don't; I want to travel EVERYWHERE, he is content to stay here; I want to move away from Oregon, again he is content to stay here. There is more, but most of it is fairly petty.
I am so glad that he met you, Lexi. You are giving him what he has always wanted: a life in Oregon, with little Landon's running around everywhere. He is a simple man, Lexi; he doesn't want for much.
But I could never give him those things. I could have made a concession to the living in Oregon stipulation, but we would have ended up failing anyways when I started resenting him. But I will not now, nor ever, concede on having kids. I don't want them at all. Your daughters are beautiful, by the way.
So, Lexi, I just need to ask you to please not break his heart. He may hide it well, but his heart is fragile. Upon the extensive Facebook stalking of you guys that I have subjected myself to, I can tell that he loves you. That he is IN love with you. There is no mistaking the look in his eyes in the pictures, as I myself have many pictures with him looking at me the same way. But there is a difference, a huge difference, you can give him everything he wants…everything he needs.
So please Lexi, love him with all of your heart. I am trusting you here, to take care of the love of my life. You look very sweet in the pictures, and I can also see the look of love on your face when you are looking at him. So I really have no doubt in my mind that you will take care of this very special, sweet, amazing man that I had the pleasure of calling "my love" for awhile.
Just please, take care of him. And do not let his family scare you away. They are all a bunch of assholes, but Landon will stand up for you against them. But, I have a feeling that they like you, Lexi. You aren't taking their boy away, like they thought I was trying to do.
Even though it breaks my heart to know that he has moved on, it helps to know that it is with someone that looks so sweet. I know you will take care of him.
Sincerely,
His ex-love
*Names have been changed
