Let’s face it being a mom is a 24/7 job. There is no time off, vacations, or breaks. Even when your child(ren) are napping or sleeping you are on the clock. Yes, it is worth every second but let’s be real we all need some mommy time alone.
Most moms probably will all agree that when bedtime rolls around it becomes their me time. But how much me time do you really get then, and how are you spending your me time?
If you’re anything like most moms when your child(ren) go to bed you use that time to finish chores around the house and probably take a shower in peace. That isn’t really me time (okay the peaceful shower is), it’s more mom time.
Do yourself a huge favor and stop. Take a deep breathe and let the chores wait. Trust me you’ll thank yourself in the end. You work all day, whether you’re a working mom or a stay at home mom, and you deserve to rest and relax at least a few times a week.
And you don’t have to wait til it’s bedtime to have you time. For those of us who are fortunate to have someone there to help us out then we should take full advantage of it. Tell your partner or whomever it is you have that you need a break and go have you time. Even if it’s only for like thirty minutes or so. Every second you get for you counts.
Taking time alone can greatly reduce the amount of stress you have and can positively impact your over all health. And let’s be honest a happy healthy you means a happy healthy mom. Your kid(s) will thank you for that.
If you don’t have someone there to help out you can still take some me time. As I’m typing this up my son is running around the living room playing. I’m fully aware of what he’s doing and interacting with him but at the same time I’m doing something I love to do and relaxing at the same time.
Be honest as moms we all think about things we wish we could do if we had time, or thing we used to do but just don’t anymore. If you’re anything like me you have a lot running through your head. So go ahead and do it.
Start with the easiest thing to do, a list. Grab a pen and paper or your computer if your like me and start writing down all the things you want to do but just don’t have the time. Make sure your list consists of things you want to do for you. If you have mom things you can make a separate list for those to do another time, focus on just you.
Got your list? Great, now start it. But where do I start? And how?
Start simple. Wait for bedtime and pick the most simplest thing on your list. Do it. Take a long relaxing shower or bubble bath. Grab a book you been wanting to read and start. Grab a glass of wine or a beer, kick your feet up and catch up on a show you been wanting to watch. Eat a pack of cookies or bowl of ice cream in peace.
You’ll be amazed at how much more relaxed you will feel in just doing something so simple. And who knows it may even help you sleep better. We all know a good night of sleep can help make a morning better.
Take a few nights doing the simple things. My simple things include doing a short workout at home and laying on the couch watching my shows. After a while it will become second nature for you.
Then go back to your list and start knocking things off it. If money is stopping you from doing something you want to do then plan for it. Get a jar or container of some sort and put a little bit away until you save up for it. And in the meantime move on to something else.
If you want to do something for you outside of the house but have trouble with a sitter, plan. Go over your list and make a mark by all the things outside of the house that you want to do. Now look those over and see how many can be done in one outing. There you go, instead of needing a sitter for multiple nights you can do multiple things in one night.
There really is no reason why as moms we can’t make time for ourselves. You would do whatever you can to make sure your kid(s) are happy and healthy so why not do it for you as well.
So do not only yourself but your child(ren) a favor and take a sometime for you. Do the things you want to do and live a much happier and healthier life.
