“Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same,” Emily Bronte
Everything changes when you know everything about someone. The ins and outs – literally, not just figuratively. It’s so easy when the love is just beginning. Nothing feels like it will ever change, you miss them as soon as they leave, and you don’t even call each other by your real names because you refer to them by cutesy nicknames only.
But no one talks about what happens when the honeymoon phase dies out, and what you’re left with. Things do change more than expected, but in a way that is even greater than the honeymoon itself.
You are my best friend now. Of course, back when we first fell in love years ago, we referred to each other as such. We didn't even know the meaning of the words yet.
Now, though, you’re the first person I call when something happens. I got a job interview, I only want to call you. I feel sick, you’re the one who makes me feel better. Feeling like a spontaneous road trip? You are my passenger.
It’s scary when you can feel yourselves falling out of the honeymoon phase but what's even better is finding out what's really on the other side of that. Our honeymoon has ended, but our love never will.
Our terms of endearment have gone from cutesy baby names to “hey butthole pass the remote” and “no you poophead, get it yourself” followed by a sexy wink and all of a sudden we are on top of both each other and the remote.
Love changes when you get past the newness of the honeymoon period. It never dies, it just gets better. You know that since the love has calmed down, it’s for real. Love is a lot of things. It's explosive and bright and energetic, but it's also mostly calm, silent and reassuring.
They love who you really are, not what you give them. It’s a beautiful thing, coming out of the honeymoon stage where love letters are as common as breathing and dates were a weekly event.
Once you realize you don’t need to put in any extra effort to impress someone, the rest becomes easy.
Like my boyfriend always says, “honey, the honeymoon phase is fake, what we have after years of love, is the realest it gets.”
