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What's Actually Going Through Your Head When He Proposes – And What's Not

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"And now, the moment we've all been waiting for…" the proposal!

At some point in your relationship with the right person, you begin to realize that this is actually the right person. You have serious conversations about the future together. You begin to discuss marriage and life after that. At some point, it really does dawn on you that this incredible person is the one that you want to spend your life with.

Your person, your man, the love of your life, has clearly been having the same thoughts, because now he's down on one knee! He's proposing! What's actually going through your mind with all of this?

You'll most likely be trying to catch up on what's happening. He's been planning this and working on what to say, so it's not a surprise to him that this is happening. However, if he surprised you, it took you a moment to register what was happening. In that moment, he was talking and you were still realizing the importance of the moment. Did you miss anything?

You might be concerned about what he chose to say – but not that much. What he says is important, to be sure, but as long as the basics are there ("I love you," and of course "will you marry me?"), you might not be as concerned about that as you think. He may choose a long romantic speech, and he might keep it short and sweet – and it will be more okay with you than you think. You'll be loving it either way. 

You'll probably be thinking about what to say in response. It's one word, "Yes!" You say it all of the time – but this is one of the most important times. You don't want to mess it up, and with a mixture of emotions and possibly some tears, you do actually have to consciously realize that you have to respond.

You won't actually be that concerned about how "all out" he went. Maybe he went full-on romantic comedy and pulled out all of the stops, or maybe he kept it simple and honest. Either way, you'll be so much more thrilled about the fact that he is proposing and professing his love to you than you will be about how he chose to do it.

You might be a bit concerned about the ring – but only a little. The ring is an important aspect of the whole experience, so it makes sense that you'll be concerned about it. However, it won't be to the extent that we're led to believe. It might be more of a curiosity as to what he decided to pick, and maybe a concern about if it will fit well – but it won't be about if it's "the most perfect ring in the world." It will instantly become the most perfect ring for you.

You won't be worried about what you look like. Odds are, there will be pictures, and you'd think that you'd want to look perfect for the moment. Of course that's a plus, but it won't matter if your hair is perfectly placed or in a messy bun or wet after a fresh shower, it really just won't matter.

You probably won't be that worried about what your nails look like, despite what you may think. Sure, the idea of perfectly manicured nails is fantastic, but there will be more pictures. If your nails aren't perfect, that's completely okay – embrace the picture taking, and then get them done for the engagement photos. It won't be that on your mind, even if it does occur to you for a brief second.

You might be thinking about what to do next – but that will come next. It might, for a fleeting moment, occur to you who you should call first, but you'll quickly be pulled back into the moment with your man. It's difficult to think about things like that when you're in the middle of such a life-changing experience. 

You will be preoccupied with the fact that you love this man so much. You'll be overwhelmed by how excited you are to make this commitment to him and to your lives together. You'll be genuinely so full of love and joy that the little silly things like when, where, how, and all the other details just really won't matter. You love him, and he loves you, and you're newly engaged! 


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