Since when did being single become a bad thing? When certain individuals started to value their Instagram followers' opinions more than their own inner peace.
When they didn't have a cute gift to flaunt on their Snapchat story or to their friends in real life. When they see couples who constantly upload pictures, who claim to be happy in their relationship, meanwhile behind closed doors, the relationship is a living hell.
Why does this generation put so much emphasis on having a partner?
Maybe because it affects others' perceptions of yourselves. Or maybe it's a rooted insecurity.
Let me say this, being single is not the end of the world. Why focus on having a partner to enjoy your free time with when you can focus on yourself and enjoy your own free time?
Society depicts the single life as taboo. Whether it's in a movie or on a Facebook post.
With the pressure to be in a relationship, people can find themselves in bad ones. Then they may start to ask themselves why they're so unhappy with their partner. They may be looking to find someone who can "fix" their life or love them until they feel like they are worth something.
Or maybe they don't love themselves enough to quit looking and begging their partner to look at their text messages.
That's not love- that's toxic obsession and insecurity.
Self-love begins with you. Not with a pretty little love song, or a huge rant coming from your partner. It does not come from a motivational speech. Self-love begins when you understand yourself.
Spending time alone helps when someone is trying to find and love themselves.
Once you learn to depend on yourself for your own happiness, then you are ready to go into a relationship. Don't expect your partner to be your lifeguard; learn how to swim in your own flaws and in those things you cannot change.
There is so much to life than being with someone.
There is traveling, there are life lessons, there is so much room for improving one's self. Instead of feeling like a grinch when you see others in their happy relationship, remember everything is not always what it seems.
While you may be wishing to have what others have, you are looking past their troubles. I don't know for sure, but being stress free and single sounds pretty damn good to me.
So while you work on self love, enjoy every minute of it.
And if you already enjoy your own company, then just simply wait. Everything will come at the perfect time.
