Social media has become our own personal diary. These days, effectively communicating with our partner is almost non existent. Instead of talking things out in private, we make a post about our issues and look for validation and advice from strangers regarding situations they have no business being in. It's easy for someone to tell you what they would do in your situation when they don't have to deal with the repercussions.
I know I've been guilty of this and if you're reading this you've probably done it a time or two as well. However, some people see no issue in posting their personal business on social media, so for them, here is why it's a bad idea…
1. It can lead to infidelity. When you post personal problems that are happening in your relationship you're inviting someone else to step in and make themselves known. You'll get that message from someone who says "You can talk to me" or "I'm always here for you", and while that could be a genuine friend looking out for you, we all know there is a snake out there waiting for the perfect opportunity to slide in your DM's. Once you respond to that message and become vulnerable to them, it's hard not to keep turning to them when something goes wrong. Eventually, that person will be the one who's on your mind and you start looking forward to your conversations with them instead of spending time fixing what's broken in your current relationship.
2. It's not private. That's the point, right? Well chances are, 99.9% of the time you post to make your partner look bad. If you're friends with your partner's friends on social media, you better believe your partner is going to hear about everything you're posting. Then again, you're probably friends with you're partner too and if that's the case you're more likely just make the post waiting for you're partner to see it. I've seen posts where the ones in the relationship are going back and forth over a status, while they're in the same room together, instead of talking out the problem in person! At that point people aren't even putting in their two cents regarding the issue, they're just following your post to see what's gonna be said next…and you better believe I'll be sipping my cup of tea while reading your business.
3. People talk. Lets be honest, it's obvious you're fishing for attention when you continue to make posts about the problems you're having with your partner. Naturally, people are nosy and want to know everything going on in someone else's personal life. People you haven't talk to in years start popping up out of nowhere talking about, "Girl, you know we go way back, what's going on?"… If you haven't talk to someone since high school and suddenly they come out of the woodwork, it's probably not for good intentions. Once you put your business out there, people start talking and ultimately, it makes you look bad.
Relationships are difficult and can be exhausting. If you're truly unhappy in your relationship why invest more negative energy; either get out or fix it, privately.