The number of times I have been told “You’re only doing that for attention,” is outrageous.
I wear makeup: “You’re only doing that for attention.”
I wear my hair down and curly: “You’re only doing that for attention.”
I’m having a bad day and I shed a tear: “You’re only doing that for attention.”
The list goes on and on…but honestly…am I actually doing it for attention, or do I want to be happy in my own skin and not get run down by the rest of the world?
Every day, someone goes through the routine of getting ready for school, work, or anything that requires going out in public. The thought that comes to mind? “Do I look okay?” YES, QUEEN. YOU LOOK GREAT! You do you, girl!
You’re always afraid of the comments someone might make though, right?
Society has taught girls of all ages that we have to be “approved” by everyone else.
Noooo, we don’t. You want to wear makeup? Do it! You want to style your hair in a way other than the everyday ponytail? Go for it! You feeling upset and down? Shed that tear, or be like me and go all out with those tears.
The reality is no one else’s opinion matters except yours.
Why should I care what society thinks of me? Are they paying my bills? No. Are they doing my school work? Absolutely not. Are they planning my future? Nope. So why? Why do I care so much what others think? Answer: Because society sucks and that’s how society has taught me to be.
As a female, we are taught to only do the things that “complement our body.” You know what happens when we do that? We get called sluts. We get called whores. We get told we are doing it only for attention. When does it stop?
We are told that everybody should be happy with themselves. Yet, when we walk out in something that someone else doesn’t like, we get put down, we get called names, we get judged. Are we asking for compliments at every turn? No. Are we seeking attention? No. We are doing us! We want to be comfortable with ourselves!
There are so many girls out in the world already that don’t feel comfortable with their bodies, so why continuously make them feel worse about themselves? Let us be happy! Secretly inside all of us, we are already not happy with how our winged eyeliner turned out, or we are worrying about how bad our hair will be frizzed up in two hours.
Don’t ever follow societies path, make your own, girl!
There is no reason why we can’t cry. There is no reason why we can’t plaster makeup on our face if we want to. There is no reason why we can’t dye our hair a different color and get a perm. You know why we do it? Because WE want to.
Society needs to learn that what we do is up to us and it focuses on our own personal feelings.
You all are beautiful and don’t let society tell you any different. You keep doing you because, in the end, you’re the only one that has the power to make yourself happy.
Next time someone makes the comment, “You’re only doing it for attention,” you look at them and say “No. I’m doing it because I know I’m beautiful and I’m not falling to society’s standards.”
