There are times when we all need a helping hand. A platform or an insiders green light to get where we want to be in life. One of the recipes for success is actually creating friendships with people you respect, are wise, successful and positive.
Michael Ellsberg, the author of The Education of Millionaires interviewed hundreds of powerful and influential people and learned the “how-to” on getting in with the get-ins.
There’s no shame in wanting to better yourself or your inner circle. However, many powerful people are not as easy to connect with. Here’s how to grab their attention…and their friendship:
- Be confident. Michael talks about how most people make the mistake of cowering in the presence of an “important” person as if they were a demigod. That is a sure found way on how to turn that person off, because they experience it so often. Realize that person is a human being with problems just like everyone else. There’s no “big” you, “little” me. Know you are just as important as any other individual on the Earth and that your friendship is worth a lot.
- Don’t take, give. The worst thing you can possibly do is to act needy or have a “how can I benefit from this” mindframe. Instead, a more effective way “in” is to ask yourself, “how you can create value?”. What are your gifts and strengths that you can bring to the table without begging for any compensation. Be unselfish with your actions, words, advice and services.
- Give advice. Ellsberg made the point that there is no one on this planet that doesn’t have problems. Just because you might be wealthy, famous or influential does not necessarily equate to being happy, healthy or even having successful relationships. Everyone needs help or advice in some area and you might just be the one that has exactly what they need. If you have experience, wisdom or expertise – give your personal and professional advice without charging a fee.
Create connections. Do you know someone who may be of benefit to the person you are trying to befriend? If so, offer your network and show how your connections could be a real benefit to them. It might be the exact connection they are looking for.
Get their contact info. Can you image how many people try to create a connection with the phrase, “here’s my card…call me!” These people are incredibly busy and will probably fail to contact you. Maybe not even because they don’t want to. They could forget, be too busy or perhaps lose your card. Instead, be bold and ask for their contact info on the spot. Break out your iphone and get the digits (and email)! That way, you are way more likely to ever speak to them again.
- Be you! Once you do create a connection, be yourself! Powerful and influential people can sniff out an imposter from a mile away. Honesty, sincerity and genuineness are things that anyone can see. There is something special about you, so let your unique light shine, because when you know your own worth you will in turn become the person whos friendship and connection is coveted.