Long-term relationships can be amazing. Building trust and really getting to know someone is a wonderful journey but sometime you need a little extra spice along the way. Falling into a routine rut can be common with couples, especially in the bedroom. Here are some easy ways to make sure you keep your partner guessing.
1. Before Foreplay
Ok before we get to the steamy stuff, let’s talk date night. When is the last time you and your partner had a romantic night out? Setting the mood happens way before you hit the bedroom, and connecting with your partner over dinner can lead to amazing sex later. Life can get hectic, but you should have a regularly scheduled date night at least once a week. You don’t have to go anywhere fancy, or even anywhere at all, but you do need to use that time to really talk and listen to each other.
2. Sexy Selfies
If you aren’t sending your partner sexy photos, you’re missing out! Sending provocative pics is an easy way to get your partner revved up even when you’re not nearby. Get out your selfie stick and start snapping (Pro Tip: the crop and filter tools are your friends). Send a photo of your best come-hither look, a peek at your lingerie, or you can get really x-rated and go full monty. Your partner will surely appreciate the effort and be eagerly waiting to get their hands all over you. Too shy? Sending sexy messages can work too.
3. Location! Location! Location!
Sometimes spicing things up in the bedroom can be as easy as getting out of the bedroom. When is the last time you had sex somewhere new? Try the shower or the kitchen. Feeling really adventurous? Head outdoors for some semi-public sexiness. Check out our list of 8 Places You Need to Have Sex NOW.
4. Toy Time
Sex toys are a great way to add in some new excitement. If you’ve never tried anything like this with your partner before, start off simple. A vibrator will add extra sensations that can really take things up a notch. Or pick up a vibrating cock ring that can be used to enhance the sensations for both of you. Go to the local sex shop together and see what piques your interest. From edible underwear to double sided dildos, the possibilities are endless!
5. Role-Play
Break out those old Halloween costumes, it’s time to dress up! There are plenty of fun role-play scenarios the two of you can try. Some popular ideas are: teacher/student, doctor/nurse, and police officer/thief. If you want to surprise your partner, you can also dress up on your own. Do they like sports? A sexy referee or cheerleader outfit is sure to get them to hit the pause button. Lingerie is great too, especially if it’s not something you usually wear. It doesn’t need to be expensive either, you can buy a crotchless body stocking for less than $10. It may not last more than one use but it’ll be worth it, trust me.
6. Get Kinky
If either of you are curious about BDSM, experimenting together can be a great way to explore and bond. Handcuffs and blindfolds can be a lot of fun when your with someone you trust. Spanking can also be very erotic, just be sure to know your limits and make your partner aware of them as well (if you delve deeper into BSDM a safe word is important). Try slathering your partner with whipped cream or melted chocolate, it’ll get messy, but you can always go for a round two in the shower together after.
