First dates can be awkward as all hell.
More often than not, whether you’re just grabbing dinner, drinks, or dinner and drinks, you’ve likely set rules for yourself.
Don’t drink too much.
Eat something light.
Try not to reveal your hideous laugh, just yet.
Do not, under any circumstance, invite him in at the end of the night.
Many young women are constantly confronted with the struggle as to whether it’s acceptable to sleep with someone on the first date.
If you’re listening to society, it doesn’t matter what you think. You shouldn’t do it.
If you’re listening to me, fuck society and do your thing, girl!
While there are many reasons you should not have sex on the first date, you very well should if…
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You want to. If you’re attracted to your date, are comfortable, and feel the urge to explore, then do so. If you have any doubts, then don’t. Don’t ever do something you don’t want to do, but don’t ever not do something you want to do, just because others say it’s wrong.
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Your room is clean. Before inviting a person who is practically a stranger into your humble abode, ensure your space is welcoming. I mean, how on earth are you supposed to get it on if you can’t even see your bed under all those dirty clothes?
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You’re both single. While this should be obvious, it’s not always the case for many. If your date shows any signs of having another, he probably has another. If you have another, just stop. Seriously.
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You’re drunk. It’s safe to say, liquid courage leads to many, many, many successful hookups. It also, unfortunately, leads to many not so successful hookups. If you’re semi-drunk, and feeling the love, then why not? If you’re hammered, go home and hope you’re invited on a second date.
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You know there’s no possibility of a second date. Sometimes, even the failed dates can lead to a semi-successful night.
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You feel safe. It should go without saying that you should never sleep with someone that makes you feel unsafe. If you know, one hundred percent, you will wake up in one piece the next morning, then why not?
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He offers to make you breakfast in the morning. Nothing beats good sex, like good breakfast.
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Your date sucks, but the sexual chemistry does not. Not every person has the capability of sleeping with someone based purely on sexual chemistry, but those who do, should take advantage of it. It does not happen often.
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You and your date have agreed there’s no future, but are still very much attracted to each other. Believe it or not, some of the best friendships are created through physical interaction. Sure, it seems unconventional, but if want to see each other naked, and are comfortable doing so, then do it. After, if you both still simply want only sex, then congrats, you just earned the perfect friend with benefits.
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You’re a human being. Maybe your date sucks, maybe it doesn’t. Whether it’s the first date, or the hundredth, who cares?
I hope it goes without saying that you should never put yourself in a situation you are not comfortable with.
But, if you’re feeling frisky, don’t be ashamed.
There’s no shame in your game!
As Nike says, “Just do it!”