Being a sociable loner means living an oxymoron kind of life.
On one hand, solitude comes naturally to us and on the other hand, we don’t mind socializing with others and even enjoy it (depending on who we socialize with, that is).
Dating a sociable loner can be a bit of a ride, but an awesome one:
- We wrestle with online dating. We’re cool with getting to know you online before in person. But at the same time, we’d rather meet you in person because loners are big observers and we have to see you in person in order to see what you’re about. Which is why…
- We’ll drill you on the first date. And by drill, we mean we’ll ask you real questions and get right to the point. We don’t like to run around in circles or even tease. We like to keep things simple and to the core.
- For the love of God, do not try to figure us out. It takes time for us to open up to you, so please be patient. Don’t try to define us early on into the relationship. Just don’t do it.
- We love a little adventure. We’re almost always up for adventure time, whether it’s playing volleyball at the beach or wandering around a neighborhood we’ve never been before. We don’t mind spontaneous explorations from time to time.
- Our main mode of communication will always be texting. It’s just so easy for us to talk without talking.
- If you call and we actually pick up…we really, really like you. Like seriously.
- If we don’t text for a long time. Either we’re enjoying our alone time or taking a nap. It’ll probably be the nap because we’re also professional nappers. So no worries.
- We’ll always be the little spoon. We’re more on the receiving end of cuddling because we’re not initiators of anything, really. So we’ll allow you to initiate moments of love and affection because…
- Affection is our frenemy. We love it because it feels great, but at the same time, it can make us feel rather uncomfortable, especially afterwards because…
- We have guarded hearts. And a guarded heart can make affection have a bad aftertaste.
- We’re quite social. We won’t mind chilling with your friends and going out to different places. Although we’d rather not be the center of attention during bar conversations, we’ll still be engaged. We’re open to socializing and don’t get tired of it.
- Solitude is our second lover. At the same time, we’re in love with our alone time. We’re comfortable with ourselves, therefore we enjoy hanging out with ourselves from time to time.
- We’re confident in ourselves…because spending a lot of time alone made us cool with ourselves and we became more sure of ourselves as a result. And we’ll have confidence in you too.