It can be hard to watch friends brag about their ‘perfect’ relationship and not want the same for yourself.
You may already have your eyes on a few people that have potential.
Unfortunately, just because they seem happy with their relationship, (that’s a whole other article) does not mean you may have the same results in yours. Not that you don’t deserve to be happy in a relationship, but settling down may not be ideal for you at the moment. Here are some signs that you may not be ready to commit to a serious relationship:
- It’s Your Way or the Highway If you feel like this when it comes to most of the decisions you make, you may not be ready to accept someoneelse’s perspective. Relationships can be compromising. A willingness to put aside how you feel in order to satisfy all parties involved is necessary. If you hate input in any decision you make, you may want to rethink involving yourself in a serious relationship. And why would you need input if you’re always right?
- You Enjoy Variety People sleep around. Accept it. When you decide to commit to someone else, you are committing you being with only them. No more one-night stands to brag about with your friends as they will know you go home to same person every night. You want to diversity? Say no to a monogamous relationship.
- But What About Your Career? Humans have found a balance between work and personal life. But that doesn’t mean everyone wants that balance. Some are pushing a little harder for their career which can get in the way of growing a strong and successful personal relationship. If you rather longs hours at work, followed by long hours focusing what’s next at work after booking your flight to the seminar helping you further your success at work, you tend to leave little time for relationship dedication. This leads to cancelled dates and broken promises. Why start something you can’t really give focus to?
- Up is Where You’re Always Turned If partying is like a second job to you minus the income, maybe you need to rethink settling down in a relationship. While couples still party, it will never be like how singles do it and it’s much more infrequent. Settling down? Get ready to turn down as well.
- You’re Not Ready For More Responsibilities While there shouldn’t be a worry for this in the beginning, the deeper into a committed relationship you are, the more responsibility you have to support a successful one. Most people will tell you that relationships aren’t always smiles and happy posts. At some point someone may have to take on more responsibility than they would like and if that’s not something you want to deal with, don’t promise a commitment to someone else.
- You Like Doing What You Want When You Want In a relationship, there will always be room for independence however, there is an expectation of openness and must be a willingness to discuss things before taking action. You cannot assume because you’re okay with your decision your partner should be and if that is the case, stay by yourself so it is only you dealing with the consequences.
- You Don’t Like Being Judge You may fall in love with someone, but that doesn’t mean everyone else will. Same goes for the approving of you. While it’s always important heed meaningful advice, many will scrutinize your relationship without full knowledge. If you can’t stand people’s judging looks and sly comments, there is no way you are ready to be in a relationship.
- The Thought of Marriage Frightens You Nobody is saying the next person you date is the one you will spend the rest of your life with. But if your intention is a serious long-term relationship, you should be okay with the notion of marriage. Everyone gets cold feet, but if you are making an effort to find excuses why you are not marriage material, it’s ineveryone’s best interest than you remain single.
- You Don’t Like Sharing The biggest thing about a serious relationship is everything becomes ‘ours.’ Bought those bag of chips with the intention of only you eating them? Well expect another hand to plunge into that bag with you since in a relationship it’s okay to assume they were bought for the two of you to enjoy. Unfortunately, many things shared in a relationship aren’t as simple as a bag of chips. It also doesn’t have to be physical. If you are not ready to share yourself or what you have with your partner, think again before trying to leave the single life.
- You Have a Hard Time Committing to Anything If you have a hard time committing to a job or any type of goal, a serious relationship isn’t that much different. All take dedication and courage to push through any obstacle put in the way. If you find yourself flaking out on things that aren’t too serious, those traits may follow you in any situation and flaking out in a relationship can have serious consequences…like becoming single.
- You Just Got Out of a Relationship Whether it ended on good or bad terms, jumping into another relationship before reflecting on the failed one is irresponsible. I don’t care how yummy they look. Your baggage may seem light to you since you’ve been carrying it for so long, but may weigh a ton to your mate. Is that really fair for them? Stay single and have fun while you wonder what went wrong.
- You’re Not Ready to Say Goodbye to Your Privacy As any relationship progresses, bits of privacy is chipped away until you mate decides to take a crap in the same bathroom you are brushing your teeth in. If you can’t stand your space being invaded and your diary metaphorically open on the dining room table, stay to yourself.
- You Like Being Alone Some people love to be around silence only allowing sound to enter when they are ready for it. Cooking for one and spreading out like a starfish in bed is essential to end a good day. It would be tragic for someone to ruin that wouldn’t it? Keep it simple and single.
- You Don’t Like Being Alone I know it’s kind of confusing. Keep reading. It will make sense. Being with someone just because you don’t like being by yourself is the wrong move. It can lead to tolerating things that most people wouldn’t. Before you proceed in committing to someone else, make sure you can survive yourself mentally and emotionally as they play a big part in a committed relationship.
- You Like to Move Around Who wouldn’t want to see the world? Unfortunately, when you bring someone else into the equation, the answer becomes more difficult to sway towards you packing your life and moving. You may want to move, but your partner may not be able to. Then it becomes a choice between your love and your love of exploration. If you just pictured yourself hiking on some random trail, it’s best to stay single.
- You’re All About the Money No need to begin your research. It has already beenproven that a significant increase in spending begins once a relationship starts. While it’s usually spent to build a life together, more money in your bank account is extremely tempting…especially thinking about that big move you are currently planning in your head.
