Despite common thought, the pursuit goes on for quite some time even if a label is given to the relationship.
They are charming and perfect, but once they've won you over they will disappear faster than they came.
- He tip toes around the idea of what you are whenever you mention it.
- Rarely uses the future tense when speaking to you. They never mention anything past that specific day or week, because they simply don't see a future.
- You don't know his close friends or family. Knowing people in their lives will make it harder to cut you loose when it's time.
- You're never invited to meet them near home, school, work, or any public place where you could run into their acquaintances.
- They are emotionally distant, and intent on not opening up. Despite this they manage to easily charm you.
- You don't know much personal information about them, and they intend to keep it that way.
- They are very good at disappearing when they need it. You tried to make a move and push things forward, but they disappeared into thin air, no texts or calls, and you don't know their acquaintances. Then they returned with some lame excuse.
- A sure sign from early on is that you find yourself asking all of the questions, and trying to learn more about them. Unfortunately they don’t seem as interested in digging any deeper into your life, and everything they know about you was information you volunteered to tell them.
- They want a relationship without having to deal with all of the personal issues, and hardships. They only date for the chase.
- If they are commitment-phobic in their dating life, then most likely they are in other aspects of their lives as well. Sometimes they career hop, or move to different locations often.
- They keep their different social circles separate. Night life friends, work friends, girl friends, soccer friends ext… When the friend circles don't link it's a lot easier to cut a friendship tie loose.
- When you start to give up or show signs of moving on, he/she will give you hope to pull you back in. Why? because it's all a part of the chase.
- They don’t want to meet anyone in your life, because they need to avoid attachment on their end.
- They have a long list of short relationships. Relationships are like shoe shopping for them. They try on one pair, walk around in them, and then realize they can't commit to wearing that color, so they continuously shop, hopping in and out of different shoes.
- They don’t even seem to remember most of the information you tell them about yourself. Your birthday, favorite color… where you work? They don't know, because this is another short term relationship, and they know it.
- They aren't too apologetic, or worried about screwing things up with you.
- They don't stay the night at your place, and god forbid you ask to spend the night at their place.
- Intuition is a powerful thing, and generally you can feel it when your partner is dating with one leg out the door. Commitment-phobes are always ready to up and leave, and they give lame excuses when they do.