You might be wondering why you need to care about date ideas for a no strings attached situation. Isn’t the whole point that you don’t have to date at all? Well, while that is the main premise of a casual sex relationship there is something you need to do before your relationship transitions to casual sex.
“The difference between a casual sex dating and no string hookups can get blurry, so it’s important to have fun and not take dating too seriously” says Jonathan Flores from Joinlust.com.
Making your intentions clear beforehand is always a good rule of thumb. Once you have established what it is you’re looking for the next step is obviously to meet in person. Assuming you’ve never met before some sort of date will probably be expected. So how does one say I only want sex yet I am taking you on a date? We’ve put together some of the top dates for no strings attached dating.
1. Going to a bar
You’re probably thinking this one is obvious and that is for good reason. While there are some rules about drinking on a first date those rules don’t apply as much when you’re not trying to be involved with someone romantically. Meeting anyone for the first time is daunting, casual relationships don’t change that. Getting together for a drink takes the edge off and helps you get loose.
We don’t recommend getting trashed. While that’s typically not a good look when meeting anyone for the first time if you’re going for a no-strings situation you need to have your boundaries clearly defined. Sometimes being really drunk can make it difficult to keep track of what you’re okay with. Just a couple of drinks and then back to someone’s place for the real reason you’re there.
2. A bottle of wine at home.
Now, this is kind of a bold move so you may want to save this for someone you’ve already had as a friend for a while. It could be a little dicey inviting someone you don’t know into your house. If it’s someone you know and trust nothing says we are casual like cutting to the chase.
Invite them over to your place and have a nice bottle of wine ready. Chat, drink a couple of glasses and one thing will lead to another. If you’re already in a home when it begins the natural progression of the date will be for it to lead up to the bedroom. The whole point of this arrangement is to keep it simple so wine at home is a great date option.
3. Coffee
Nothing says we’re just friends with benefits like grabbing a coffee. You might be the type that thinks coffee might make you jittery and mess up your sex game. Don’t worry about that studies have shown there is no link to caffeine and problems getting it up.
Grabbing a coffee and then grabbing each other’s naked bodies is a great way to start both of your days off right. Hit the nearest Starbucks and then find the nearest home or back seat. There is nothing wrong with perking up your day.
4. Hotel date
I don’t know about you but something about a sexy hotel room with a perfectly made bed that makes me just want to tear it up. A hotel date is a perfect idea for a friends with benefits hookup. Maybe because it makes you feel like you’re meeting up with a hooker or there is something sexy in the air but meeting in a spot that is neither of your turfs is a great way to spice it up.
?Take advantage of business travel or being out of town to have someone meet you in a hotel room. Leave a key at the front and have them meet you up in your room. At the end of the day, all either of you want is a soft bed to make a mess. Hotels mean you don’t have to clean up afterward either.
5. Dessert Only
A dessert-only date is a perfect way to tie up your day without all the commitment of dinner. Not having to wine and dine someone is one of the main benefits of no strings dating. By going straight to dessert you avoid all the mixed messages that come along with a romantic dinner. There are a ton of aphrodisiacs but the top of the list is always chocolate.
Meet in a sexy restaurant and order something rich and decadent. By the end of dessert, you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other. Hurry back home and have dessert dessert, if you know what I mean.
It can be tough to navigate the world of casual sex. You don’t want to lead your partner on but you don’t want them to feel like just a booty call. These date ideas are the perfect balance of sexiness while still keeping things light and fun.