Being cheated on sucks but these reactions will just make things worse. Here are some things to avoid when you’ve been cheated on.
Blaming Yourself
It’s all too common to blame ourselves when our partners have done something wrong. Don’t. It’s not your fault. No one deserves to be cheated on. If your partner was unhappy or unsatisfied, they should have talked to you first. If they crave variety and are just bad at monogamy, they should have talked to you first. If they were confused or bored, they should have talked to you first. You didn’t do anything wrong. They did.
Blaming the Other Woman
Making excuses for our cheating significant other and instead focusing our rage on whoever they cheated on us with is a bad idea. Unless the other woman is a close friend or family member, they didn’t make any commitments to you. They don’t owe you any loyalty. Remember that they didn’t disparage your relationship, your partner did. Giving a man a pass and instead slut-shaming a woman who may very well have been kept in the dark just as much as you have is wrong. And yes, I’m looking at you Beyhive.
Keeping It to Yourself
Being cheated on sucks. It hurts and it can really damage your self-esteem. It’s common to feel rejected, but you have to remember that your self-worth is never dictated by someone else. If you find that you’re struggling, please don’t keep your feelings bottled up inside. Having a shoulder to cry on can make a big difference. Open up to friends, family, or even a counselor about what your dealing with.
Immediately Overreacting
Even if it is the end of your relationship, it’s not the end of the world. Taking to Facebook to slander your partner or the other woman is a really bad idea. Slashing his tires or burning all his things is not the right move. Take some time to think things through before immediately reacting to being cheated on. Let the anger subside before you make any decisions. Then make time to discuss things with your partner once you’ve calmed down. Whether you plan on ending or salvaging your relationship, do it with a clear head and some dignity.
Seeking Advice
Ok so you’re wondering if you should break up with him or not? Don’t ask me. Looking to others for their advice on your relationship is rarely a good idea. No matter how many articles on cheating you read, you have to remember that your relationship is unique. Your decision to leave or stay is between you and your partner, and no one else. It’s especially important to remember that if you decide to stay and people are critical, it’s really none of their business anyway.
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