You have met a good man and dream of creating a healthy family. You are planning to have kids in the future. Will he be a good father? How to understand and determine whether a man wants children and whether he can be an excellent dad? Take a good look at the man whether he has most of the signs that we will now list. In that case, you can safely build a serious relationship with him. If your boyfriend is wondering how to be a good father and husband, this article will also be helpful.
He Has Relatives He Cares About
Ideally, younger brothers or sisters, or at least nephews, are someone who can be patronized, educated, and pampered. Suppose you have the opportunity to watch your boyfriend in the role of a wise and loving older brother, and he copes with this role successfully. In that case, you can consider the other signs as secondary: your man will no longer be frightened by any childish whims, diapers, or home tasks. He has already built a good father archetype.
He Doesn’t Think Child Care Is a Woman’s Business
According to Dating Ranking reviews, in the typology of family crises, there is a “crisis in the first year of a child’s life,” which, according to statistics, causes the overwhelming majority of divorces – even if the baby is desired. Very often, it’s all about common stereotypes: many men still believe that changing diapers, washing bottles, and reading bedtime stories are exclusively women’s prerogatives.
This results in quarrels, misunderstandings, fatigue, multiplied by resentments, and the rapid destruction of relationships. If the philosophy “this is not a man’s business” is close to your boyfriend (which is most likely if the roles in his parents’ family were distributed this way), try not only to give rational arguments. However, try to explain that he will become much more courageous and desirable if you share the baby’s concerns. Indeed, a man, tenderly rocking his child in his arms, looks thousand times more courageous and attractive than the hottest dreamboat.
He Does Not Panic in Difficult Situations
Children have a fantastic ability to create emergencies from scratch. The degree of accidents may vary – from a broken toy to a flooded apartment. The ability not to go crazy, keep a cool head and turn on a sense of humor in such moments will be beneficial for you and your man. If your partner turns out to be an alarmist who, in any emergency, loses his will and tears his hair, then be prepared for the fact that the birth of a baby will become a severe test for his fragile nature.
He Can Be a Good Friend
Pay attention to what kind of friends your chosen one is surrounded by and how they describe him: do they turn to him for advice, do they consider him a reliable friend, and do they trust him? Or is his communication with friends reduced only to periodic drinks? Parenthood requires a wide variety of good father characteristics, and being a reliable, authoritative friend is one of them. If your loved one knows how to be friends, lend a shoulder to lean under challenging times, knows how to choose friends and how not to lose their friendship, he has a much better chance of becoming a good dad for your child.
He Really Wants a Child
It may sound trite, but the man succeeds in the desired and conscious parenthood much better than the sudden and forced one. If your boyfriend starts a conversation about children and voices parenting as one of the priority goals, it is the ideal option. If you have to persuade your loved one to decide on having a child, and he stubbornly defends himself with arguments about the need to “live for himself” and expect “better times,” without offering a specific plan, likely, these best times for him will never come. Fatherhood simply scares him, and “living for himself” will be his priority for a long time.
To create a healthy family and raise truly happy children, partners should be lovers and best friends for each other. Only, in this case, you will be able to resist the difficulties, daily problems, and other minor troubles of our life.
He doesn’t have to be the perfect man, but we hope you both clearly understand how unique starting a new family is after reading our good father tips. Undoubtedly, for you, it will be a tremendous personal development as a woman, but for him, it will be a unique, incomparable experience – to be a father. Take this step consciously!
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About The Author
Miranda Davis is a freelance writer in the relation and psychology area. Miranda is interested in such topics as building healthy relationships between people, love/sex compatibility, and how to find the right balance in life in general. She is currently doing specific research on the topic. Miranda loves cooking and long-distance walking.